Member Experiences
“I was in a sexless marriage, a late-comer to parenthood and had just started a new business. My wife and I had become incompatible with our desires in the bedroom and while I was still attracted to her, I still had sexual needs that weren't being met. I couldn't leave her because I was financially dependent and we had a child together. I tried a few sites without any real success before landing on Ashley Madison. The people I meet on this site are looking for the same things which makes the whole experience more straightforward and enjoyable for both parties. I've been a member for six years now, and I am happier, less stressed, and more sexually satisfied thanks to my outside partners. I am still in a sexless marriage, but I am no longer living a sexless life. To anyone looking to make a change without leaving their spouse, this is a great route to take."
"I joined Ashley Madison within the first five years of my marriage. I was looking for people in similar situations to my own – married with no physical or emotional connection. I wanted to find someone who could fill that void, but also understand family obligations and the fact that we wouldn’t be able to see each other all the time. I’ve been on the site for over a year and I’ve had two affairs, one of which was with a local married man who I’ve recently started seeing again. In addition to having a sexual affair, we enjoy going out on dates and spending time together."
"I joined Ashley Madison in September of 2018. Like most married people, I was bored and curiosity got the best of me. Immediately, I met an amazing man. He gave me everything I wanted, from attention to the feeling of being desired by someone. For several months we stuck to just us, then slowly opened that up as well. During this process, I've learned I'm more of a single affair partner type of woman – you'll meet men that want long term or just a bit of fun. Either way, it's convenient to almost anyone! A year later on the website and I continue to meet great men. I was terrified as you probably would be but this is the most discreet place you'll find."
“I've never been suited for monogamy, I don't think many people are. I was finding myself bored of having sex with the same partner over and over again. That's why I joined Ashley Madison as a single man. It provided variety with none of the commitment and all of the anonymity. It's straight to the point, and the people are more experienced which makes the sex so much better. I've been able to explore and experiment with multiple partners. Since joining I've been in and out of monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, and what I've found is that sex outside of a relationship improves the relationship itself. When I joined the site I was looking to get laid, and I've gotten that, a lot. I'd recommend Ashley Madison if you want no bullshit sex."
"My husband and I get along just fine. I love him, we make each other happy, but we haven’t had sex in nearly a decade. I was tired of being the only one initiating sex and I couldn’t go on celibate, so I joined Ashley Madison in early 2011. There is a wide variety of men on the site and that’s just one of the things I love about it. The men I’ve met are very kind, good husbands, and good fathers, they just want to satisfy their sexual needs. I don’t want to leave my husband, so I work hard to keep my affairs a secret. Now I have my sex life and my married life – I’m a happy camper."
"I am 68 years old and a lawyer. I joined Ashley Madison about 4 years ago, having previously tried a couple of other sites and had one relationship that was ended by external circumstances. I am in a marriage from which sex has disappeared (which is at least as much my fault as my wife's), although it remains a happy marriage which neither of us wishes to end. On AM I was lucky to encounter within a few weeks a woman about 15 years younger than me whose profile appealed to me. I messaged her and we corresponded for a couple of weeks; she then agreed to meet me for a drink and subsequently to commence a sexual relationship. We are still together, and the relationship has grown to be much more than purely sexual; I have found a friend and confidante as well as a lover."
“One day I woke up and realized that I was not attracted to my husband at all anymore. I felt like I couldn't communicate my sexual desires with him and noticed more and more that he was not the man that I pictured myself playing out those fantasies with. I had an affair offline to start and I loved it but the relationship eventually ran its course. I was hooked to the rush and thrill and wanted that feeling again. That's when I tried Ashley Madison. I was nervous to meet with anyone locally at first so I would only meet with men while I was traveling. Then as I got more comfortable, I started talking and meeting with men on the site who lived in my city. I've had 10+ affairs since joining Ashley Madison and the sex is amazing. I'm happy again and I don't feel any guilt for stepping outside my marriage because it's satisfying me in ways my husband no longer could. I would recommend Ashley Madison to anyone who wants sex with none of the attachment and all of the passion and fun-- that's why I am still on it."
“I've never been interested in being in a relationship, all I really want is casual sex with none of the mess. I found that I couldn't get just sex from just anyone, a lot of men were looking for something more, or acted like they weren't looking for more but eventually became clingy. Married men aren't like that. They are caring and nice, and you don't have to deal with a relationship. It's important however that they aren't a part of your close circle to avoid any potential complication. That's why I decided to join Ashley Madison, to meet people that knew exactly what I was looking for because they were looking for the same thing. Since joining I've been able to chat and meet with all sorts of men that meet my needs in the bedroom without needing much from me outside the bedroom."
“There are a lot of great things about my marriage, but sex is not one of those things. I felt a growing distance with my spouse because of our incompatibility in the bedroom and despite my efforts, she was unwilling to try anything new. It got to the point where I had a spontaneous affair, sort of accidentally, and it was a game changer for me. It was wild and deeply satisfying. I wanted to continue exploring this type of sex outside my marriage but realized I would need to be smarter about it. I joined Ashley Madison to pursue affairs more discreetly and the sex has been off the charts. I've been able to explore things my wife would never try and all the while I find myself being more attentive as a husband when I return home. It's a win-win. I recommend Ashley Madison to anyone who's marriage has gone sexless but not loveless."
“My story is probably unlike a lot of others on the website. I was single and my married friend told me she was on it so I joined to see her profile, and I started to get messaged, so I decided it couldn't hurt to message back. It wasn't long before I was meeting a man for my first of many one night stands. At the time of joining I wasn't interested in dating anyone, and I still am not interested in a relationship, and the people on Ashley Madison aren't looking for a relationship either. It makes it really easy to meet people, have a casual relationship, and split off. I joined Ashley Madison 5 years ago and have had around 25 affairs, and each affair has been sexually satisfying and easy to get out of."
“I chose to keep working and marry my wife right out of highschool instead of going to college and partying, and I used to think a lot about how I missed out. Don't get me wrong, I love my life, my wife, my family, I just sometimes wish I had adventured and partied more when I was younger. The idea of making up for lost time is what eventually led me to Ashley Madison. I was so nervous at first, the only person I had been intimate with for most of my life had been my wife, but I quickly got over the nerves and started having fun. Now looking back to my life before Ashley Madison I had sunk in a routine, I had become comfortable just going through the motions, but meeting new people who know what they want - and in a sense know what I want - that broke the routine. I'd recommend Ashley Madison to any adventurer out there that is stuck in a routine that they want to break out of, because at the end of the day an affair is an adventure, a party."
I never considered cheating. It wasn’t something I agreed with or saw myself doing, but 14 years into my marriage I hit a rut. I had everything I’d ever wanted but I was just miserable, so I needed something or someone to make me feel better and happy. With my primary relationship lacking in certain areas, I tried meeting people on other apps. While my confidence was boosted, I needed more than just a phone conversation. I joined Ashley Madison with the intent to meet someone and start a physical relationship. Since I’ve been on, I’ve met several men and had a year-long physical relationship with a man in a similar situation to mine. I stay away from one-night stands but I don’t want anything too long-term either – there’s only so much of myself I can give. My marriage is fine, I derive purpose from it, and I’m not planning on leaving. I just need something to keep me happy and satisfied on the side.
After being in a long-term relationship for over 20 years, I’ve come to learn that the little things that once attracted you to your partner can become the same things that turn you off down the road. While I still love my partner and don’t want to replace her with someone else, I feel like there’s a hole that needs to be filled – specifically when it comes to sex. In my few years on the site I’ve met seven or eight women, but I’ve been seeing one for about a year now. She’s in the same situation I’m in and we’ve developed a great emotional connection that goes hand in hand with our physical relationship. We talk to each other, we confide in each other, and we satisfy each other’s needs. I’m not looking for a permanent partner, but it’s nice to have someone who understands what I’m going through and fills that void.
I joined Ashley Madison eight years into my marriage following a long period without any physical intimacy between my spouse and I. We lost the spark and connection we once had, and he was unwilling to try and find it again. I’ve met a few people during my time on the site and actually formed a fantastic friendship that’s lasted until this day. While these interactions helped to fill part of the void in my marriage, I’ve had the time to really fine-tune what I’m looking to find. The site helped me realize the intimacy my marriage lacks isn’t coming back, so that’s what I’m looking for.
Following my divorce about eight years ago, I tried to get back out there and make myself available again. The problem was expectations – every man I came across wanted something long-term, but, as I had already been married, I didn’t. I joined Ashley Madison four years after my divorce knowing exactly what I wanted and I’ve met the most incredible people. The site has a great caliber of men who meet my criteria when it comes to short-term sexual relationships, and I consider myself lucky to have remained good friends with some of them today. Married men aren’t looking for a relationship, and the discretion is a whole new adventure for me. The sexual excitement and frequency have made me feel like a teenager again, and I’m having the best sex of my life.
I would describe myself as happily married. I love my husband – he’s a great person, a great friend, but he’s essentially my roommate. I’m not looking to change my situation because I love my family, but my marriage lacks any deep emotion or chemistry. I need passion, attention, and excitement. I joined Ashley Madison over a year ago and it took time to find someone I wanted to start an outside relationship with. Eventually, I found a man who I was with for nine months, and I am now currently searching for someone new. While my marriage hasn’t entirely changed since I joined, I have become more patient, more understanding, and I feel like I’m a better wife to my husband.
