What's Married Dating?
Right now, you may be in a committed relationship as a husband, wife, or life partner. And while you may be comfortable in your current situation, there are times when you feel there is something missing, something intangible you just can't put your finger on.
You miss the sexually-charged excitement of the pursuit, but don't want to risk compromising what you have with your partner or with your family.
So, what to do? There are many people who find themselves fantasizing about experimenting with a different erotic partner, someone who understands their lifestyle and shares the need for discretion.
Married dating websites can provide a great way for "married but looking" individuals to explore that sensual urge, without jeopardizing the status quo.
By definition, married dating is a romantic or sexual stage whereby two people, usually in a committed relationship, seek an intimate liaison with someone other than their partner. Are you married but looking for more?
Why Do People Date Outside of Marriage?
We've all been through relationship peaks and valleys at some point in our adult lives. Domestic routines begin to take over - the job, the kids, the house, the parents.
Soon, couples may find that once burning, lustful desire now gives way to patterns of intimacy which, while still pleasurable, become predictable and less adventurous.
It's typical human nature to be curious, to wonder about the great sexual unknown. But it's also quite human to be prudent in how we go about finding the right person who will join us in that journey.
You may be fortunate to have a close circle of friends who are willing to sexually experiment and are open to sharing their partners. In the old days, it was called swinging or wife sharing. Remember when key parties were all the rage.
But in today's fast-paced, family-centric society, it's not that easy. And it may be something your mate isn't up for.
At AshleyMadison.com, we aim to help you find that perfect someone who knows the rigors of married life and is looking for the same erotic outlet without the distraction and risk of traditional dating sites.
I'm Married, You're Married
You love your spouse. And for the most part, you love your life. But you've reached a point where you need that extra spark to re-engage with life, to make it feel more meaningful, more worthwhile.
Connecting with someone single may let you live on the "wild side" for a while, but do they really get you? Do they understand the hassles and challenges you face every day?
Married people dating other married people are looking for a shared experience that goes beyond the sexual. They are looking for that naughty, erotic connection only two people with similar lifestyles can understand.
Every cheater in an extramarital relationship brings their own story to the adventure. Something relatable to the other person without risking the bond you each hold dear with your spouse. Perhaps you are in a very loving marriage, but your mate no longer has the same sexual desires you once shared? Or maybe you have sexual fantasies that will never be fully realized with your current spouse? Sometimes there’s quest for connection between two secretly homosexual males or females and gay and lesbian dating sites are an outlet. Is your spouse ill and emotionally unavailable? Or is he/she putting family over your relationship? Are you a lonely wife or husband whose spouse is never home? Perhaps you are in an open marriage whereby you and your partner have embraced polyamorous lifestyle and want a judgment-free poly dating experience to come with it.
Why not reach out to someone experiencing similar issues by registering with AshleyMadison.com? Imagine the excitement and pure joy of connecting with someone who walks in your shoes and understands the simple and pure pleasure of a non-committed sexual reawakening.
Let's Get Your Affair In Order
Today, there are still many adult entertainment and swingers clubs where married men and women can go in search of extramarital adventures. Some even offer internet services. Yet, like most bars and clubs, they are in the public domain and offer little in the way of a discreet and reliable encounter.
Traditional adult dating sites often cater to those looking for casual hookups and offer little discretion, leaving your infidelity/adultery open to public scrutiny. Escorts are illegal in most jurisdictions, and thus a non-starter for those seeking discretion.
You're married and you have a reputation to uphold, not only for you, but for your family. Do you really want to conduct an affair with someone who doesn't understand where you're coming from and what you really need? Do you want to take a chance?
By creating a discreet profile on an adult dating website like AshleyMadison.com, you control your message, your needs, and who you are looking for in your extramarital partner. Alternately you can download iPhone or Android affair dating apps and signup discreetly from your mobile phone.
Once you've viewed the profiles of other adventure-seekers, you can take the next step by choosing like-minded partners - at your own pace and with privacy.
Imagine the excitement of your first online chat, followed by a discreet telephone call. If all goes well, you may well be on your way to the most exhilarating affair of your life.
Dos & Don'ts of Married Dating
Just because you're engaged in an extramarital affair, doesn't mean there aren't some ground rules to follow. There are pitfalls in any dating exchange, the fact that you're both married changes the complexion, but not the courtesies.
When creating your profile on AshleyMadison.com, be sure to clearly express your reasons for being unfaithful and what you are looking for in an extramarital partner.
Managing expectations from the start will save you from any unnecessary misunderstandings. You're not looking for another spouse or commitment. You're looking for a discreet, romantic interlude with someone who shares your lifestyle and appreciates your boundaries. Expectations often range from a casual hook up, to a longer-term friends with benefits(fwb) arrangement.
Once you agree to meet your potential partner, choose a discreet location that is appropriate for both of you. If it makes you feel more comfortable, you may want to bring along a trusted chaperon to the first meeting - provided that is agreeable to your date.
One important thing to keep in mind when choosing a potential partner is their use of social media. The last thing you want is someone who will broadcast your relationship on Instagram or Facebook for all the world to see. Get to know their online habits before moving forward. Online chats and follow-up telephone calls are essential steps to take before meeting in person and will help you determine whether this is a suitable match for you.
Once you're comfortable with your choice, it's time to embark on what could be one of the most satisfying and emotionally rewarding dating adventures of your life.
Why Date Out of Wedlock?
People seek extramarital affairs for a variety of reasons but research shows most of us are looking for an emotional and physical connection we're just not getting in our day-to-day lives. In an article for Redbook Magazine, author Mallory Schlossberg interviewed several researchers looking into why men cheat. In his paper, "Truth About Cheating - Why Men Stray," researcher M. Gary Neuman cites that 47% of men cheat because they are emotionally unsatisfied.(3)
Married people may feel more comfortable seeking out other married individuals because they too have unmet sexual desires but don't want the risk associated with dating someone single. Married dating websites allow you to relate to the other person and their circumstances.
In another article published by Julia Omarzu of Loras College, a survey conducted by Susan Krauss Whitbourne for Psychology Today cites that of the 77 participants aged 23 - 63 years of age (both men and women) - 73% reported an extramarital affair.(4)
So why do we cheat? According to Esther Perel in a fascinating TED discussion - "Rethinking Infidelity," recently published by "The Good Friend Project," people have extramarital affairs for a variety of reasons, but most are fundamentally rooted in a sense of "longing and loss".
In her studies, Ms. Perel found that infidelity rates range from 26% - 75%, depending on the circumstances and that most people long for novelty and sexual freedom.
Additionally, she found that extramarital affairs are less about sex and more about the desire to feel important, to feel special, to do something that makes us feel alive. She states "What if even a good marriage cannot inoculate us against wanderlust? What if passion has a finite shelf life? What if these are things that even a good relationship cannot give us."(5)
Some Helpful Tips For Dating While Married
So, you've made the decision to have an extramarital affair and preferably with someone who is also married. Let the AshleyMadison.com platform help you navigate this journey in a discreet manner.
Your Online Quest
Create an AshleyMadison.com profile that clearly and concisely outlines why you are seeking an affair and what you are looking for from a married partner. Don't be shy about stating your desires and your expectations for this relationship. If you're looking for a cheating wife - just say so!
Take a look at other married people's profiles to see if there is someone who shares your desires and understands your need for discretion.
Start a discussion through our online chatroom. Get to know this person a bit better and start setting some ground rules. Make it clear: are you interested in a no strings attached scenario, or a FWB relationship? Perhaps you're interested in cybersex? Make your own ground rules based on what would be the best fit for you. Remember you don't want someone who is liable to share your activities on Facebook or Instagram. Chances are they won't because they are married too.
Follow up with an intimate telephone call. See if your potential match sounds as good as they write.
Make arrangements to meet in person at a discreet location that suits both of you. If it makes you more comfortable, bring along a chaperon for your first encounter provided your date agrees.
The Offline Rendezvous
You both understand the need for discretion so choose your locations wisely.
Use your first meeting - whether it's for a drink or dinner - to go over each of your expectations given your current marital status.
The rest is up to you and your partner so enjoy the adventure.
