Some sympathy for married women!
Are many married women actually very lonely? Seems like a rather interesting topic to explore in a day and age where social media and technology is allowing couples to communicate more often than not. But the means of communication isn't the problem, it's the communication itself in a time of prosperous lifestyle opportunities.
Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D., writes on his wealth of experience with frustrated married women "Each day I am confronted by women who are extremely frustrated with their marriages. They usually express no hope that their husbands will ever understand what it is that frustrates them, let alone change enough to solve the problem. From their perspective, marital problems are created by their husbands who do little or nothing to solve them."(1)
Marriage is a term best associated historically with the pursuit of survival interests. For most people on the planet, up until about a century ago, it was a matter of arranging opportunistic unions for the elevation of status and security in pretty much every culture since the dawn of time.
According to Stephanie Coontz author of 'Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage.' This traditional act of union between a man and woman is quite simply an arranged alliance that had really high survival results.
"Marriage is a truly ancient institution that predates recorded history. But early marriage was seen as a strategic alliance between families, with the youngsters often having no say in the matter. In some cultures, parents even married one child to the spirit of a deceased child in order to strengthen familial bonds." (2)
As we find ourselves fast-forwarding to a modern age of marriage, more men and women are now free to marry for love and mutually compatible companionship. We've had at least half a century of marrying for love and now we are realizing some things that many scientists and journalists claimed a long time ago ... monogamy isn't for everybody, and those who have the patience to work through it must be very patient.
As Albert Einstein famously noted in his letters, "I am sure you know that most men (as well as quite a number of women) are not monogamously endowed by nature." (3)
Let's not confuse marital unhappiness with a lack of successful marriages or the dismissal of marriage as an institution. Many people are very happy tying the knot and working towards a life partnership, but monogamy is by no means for everybody and as Douglas LaBier writes in the Huffington Post, an affair is a pretty okay solution.
"That is, an affair can provide feelings of affirmation and restore vitality, and can activate courage to leave the marriage when doing so is the healthiest path." (4)
So with that said, let's explore a few real reasons for women to try infidelity, and let's put the judgment away for the sake of this objective exercise.