There has always been a lot of focus on the male sex fantasies and what they are looking for in an affair partner whereas articles on women can sometimes come off as how-to guides or where to put your fingers. So here is an article that focuses in on the fantasies that females have in a big way. Here are nine ways to put the ladies first and possibly to spark some very interesting discussions between you and your affair partner.
Now calm down there, buddy. Before you're ready to tie your affair partner down and tease her within the inch of her life we're not talking about you dominating her. Fifty Shades of Grey has made the idea of taking control of a woman immensely popular within our society, but there are also many women who want to dominate you. Sometimes there's just nothing hotter than having your tough as nails affair partner begging you for the release that he craves. Be a good boy and she'll make all your dreams come true.
This is a guilty pleasure for a number of women, most of whom would not have the guts to do anything of the sort. Picture yourself in a dark club, the lights are going and the alcohol is making your head spin when the woman of your dreams comes up and asks you to come home with her. Be careful with this one though, if you don't have the moves you're going to come off as creepy. One way to get around this would be to pretend to be a stranger, set up the scenario and just roleplay it out with an affair partner you're comfortable with. All the thrill and none of the risk.
For those of you who aren't in the know, an MFF threesome is one which has one male and two females. A surprising amount of straight women will engage in sexual acts with women as the restrictions on sexuality weaken on society. The best part about doing this with an affair partner is that you don't have to worry about the jealousy springing up that may have been present should you have chosen to engage in this wonderful, wonderful behaviour with your wife or long term girlfriend. Try testing the waters first by first asking your affair partner if she would be interested. For women who are trying this for the first time, it is always easier to have something done to you than to do something to someone else. Have your male affair partner and the second female lavish you with attention until you're so turned on that you don't even stop to think.
You've always wanted to have your affair partner in a sexy school girl outfit bent over your knee so you can administer a slow spanking that had her whimpering your name. We bet you thought that was a male only fantasy, but there are a suprising amount of women who want it as well. This ties into a mild form of dominance and submission, but really… who wouldn't want to be treated like a school girl who has been bad? If she doesn't want to dress up, chances are that she'll still like a nice spank while you're getting down and dirty.
Women like watching people get it on as much as men do. It's a taboo and people (regardless of gender) just can't get enough of the taboo sex. While its unlikely that your affair partner will want to go around and peek through people's windows, most women will enjoy watching a pornography as long as it doesn't have things that she would find distasteful (you would have to be careful with a lot of pornography in this case). One thing that you could do is search the internet together or go to the video store so that she can pick out the pornographic movie that she would want to see. This stops you from getting in trouble if the subject matter is distasteful and even better, shows that you are thinking about her and her comfort. Pay attention to her as well as the porn while you're watching it together and you can see what gets her the most hot and bothered.
Now we cannot stress this enough, but fantasies that involve this kind of force need to be thoroughly talked through with your affair partner. Every woman will have a different limit and a safe word is essential. Trust us when we say that the extra time spent in preparation will be worth the pay off. Her protests (while faked) will only make you more turned on because sometimes the fighting makes it better. In fact, her fighting you back will activate your adrenaline to give you an incredible rush. Again though, please talk this through with your affair partner because it's an extremely sensitive fantasy which has the potential to go amazingly right and horribly wrong at the same time.
There aren't many who would be able to pull this off in public, but honestly when it comes to the privacy of your affair, it will be the thought that counts. Put on some sexy music and have her slowly dance for you as she teases you mercilessly. She'll feel beautiful when you press your rock hard erection against her and in control when you let her finish her dance. If you really want to have fun, take a few pole dancing lessons. They are great for empowering women about their bodies and helping them to feel sexy in an increasingly scrutinizing world.
Now this is something that many women get too self-conscious to do when it comes to the actual taping of your sexual acts. This is particularly true when it comes to someone who is trying to have a discreet affair. The discretion also makes it inadvisable to have sex in a public place as well. There are alternatives to this, however, which should work just as well with your affair partner. Try to find a hotel which has mirrors situated in all the right places so you can both watch yourselves get it on. If you want to mix some dominance in there and get your affair partner to watch herself while you pleasure her, this can be a great confidence boost if done right.
Now you can get excited about the domination because this form of domination is what you thought of the first time. Some people will blame the men on not being as rough and ready as they were before, but there are a lot of women who just want to be pushed down and taken advantage of. Make her scream your name while her nails drag down the back and for a brief moment, she'll let you own her in every way you could ever want to. Blindfolds and Fifty Shades of Grey are your best friend, but a small note for those who are going to look to that book for inspiration…. You can get your ideas from it, but it's best to search for information on the actual practices from a knowledgeable BDSM website.