Extramarital affairs are on the rise, but there is also a good amount of single people who are jumping into the married dating pool. In some cases, these people are looking to be a part of a threesome. Other times, they simply want a relationship with no commitments and there is no surer way to have no commitments than to date someone who is already married. These single people tend to be looking for sex exclusively rather than long term relationships and if you want to date someone who is single, then there are many perks to doing so although your promise of discretion is lessened somewhat since the two of you do not both have spouses.
But what about dating a married person? What are the benefits to having an extramarital affair when you’re not married?
1) Lack of commitment.
If you’re not looking for something serious, then this is the place for you. You’re almost guaranteed to find someone who isn’t looking for anything long term and you can call the shots in the relationship. If you want to meet once a week? We’re sure that your affair partner would be down for that. If you wanted to meet more regularly, they would probably be okay with that too, so long as they could fit it into their schedule. If you’re looking for casual dating, then look no further than the married dating pool.
2) People are more interested in you.
One thing that marriage does is it shuts people off from the rest of the world. It’s not something that is done entirely, but it does tend to happen and more than that, it is something which makes new people more interesting. If you’re single and someone new, they’ll be more interested in having an affair with you and also with taking you out prior to it. There are some who would balk at it, but for a lot of people who are having an affair the time spent outside of the house is almost as good as the sex.
3) You are not expected to save marriages.
There is a common misconception that when you go into an affair with someone who is having an extramarital affair that you have to stay as their affair partner (like a mistress). This isn’t true. While there are some people who enjoy this, there are plenty of people who don’t and if you’re not comfortable with that kind of arrangement then don’t feel bad about not going for it. Remember that an affair is infinitely customizable and often comes without the expectations or baggage that a normal relationship would. You call the shots and you get to decide how far this goes for you. If you want to be in something more long term, but still an affair then that’s up to you and your affair partner.