There are things to take into consideration when you have a fuck buddy and one of the things you need to think about is how to know when it’s all over. Sometimes this decision will be made for you with the other party walking away, but more often than not, the decision is going to be left in your hands. If you think that you’re always going to be able to walk away without a single scratch, then you’re wrong. Human relationships are complicated, that’s part of what makes them so interesting and sharing such an intimate portion of your life with someone even if it is just physical attachment is going to leave some impressions.
It’s good to keep the heart out of it when it comes to fuck buddies not just because you want to make sure that it remains on a sexual level, but because fuck buddy relationships are temporary. The entire relationship is set up to be temporary and without strings attached. This is different from friends with benefits relationships where you are supposed to be able to remain friends even after you stop sleeping with each other.
Keep the heart out of it and you’ll be able to see the signs clearly when it’s time to pull the plug. Just to make things easier though, we’ve compiled a short list for you.
1. Your affair partner is starting to get clingy. Wanting to see each other for sex is all well and good, but when it comes to being texted all day, every day then there’s obviously an attachment that is growing there. Even if the texts are all sexual in nature, being in constant contact like that will set a precedent that will be harder and harder to get out of the more that you indulge in it.
2. There’s talk of the future. It would be the other way when it comes to conventional dating, but with fuck buddy relationships solid plans for the future are something to run away from. You’re not looking to build a life with your affair partner nor do you want more baggage then you’re already carrying. If you’re planning a vacation together six months in advance then you’re not in a fuck buddy relationship. The beauty of fuck buddy relationships is that you should be able to start and stop them with a snap of a finger. Real life tends to be more complicated, but you should still be able to put everything away without too much muss.
3. You’re just not feeling it any more. Relationships take work, but fuck buddy relationships are those rare beasts where if they begin to feel like work it’s time to pack it in. While there should be compromises sexually and a mutual understanding as well as trust in the bedroom, there should be no real compromising of your regular life in order to indulge of the whims of a fuck buddy. If you find yourself cancelling plans and rescheduling your life in order to fit your fuck buddy’s schedule then it’s time that you take a step back and reprioritize. If the spark has gone out of the sex that you have, you don’t need to stop and think about how to bring that spark back. Fuck buddies are wonderful in so much that they’re disposable. When you’re not as excited about the relationship then it’s time to pack it in.