There are all sorts of people who choose AshleyMadison.com for their affairs, and some of those people might be newly divorced. Don’t let this turn you off. You might find the most amazing affair partner through someone who was just recently divorced, but there are a couple things that you need to keep in mind. If someone who is divorced is on the site then they must have needs that they want to address, but you do need to be a little bit more careful in some regards around people who are divorced than people who are still with their spouses.
If you’re wondering why someone who is recently divorced would even want to be looking for an affair… Everyone has their own reasons, but sometimes casual dating can help to take the edge off a nasty divorce or soothe a bruised ego. No one wants to be alone and when you’re used to having a spouse around, then that loneliness can eat away at you.
Remember that having an affair with someone who is recently divorced will take a little more time from you simply because they’re in a very delicate place for the most part. Patience will be your friend in this regard.
So if the person you’re having an affair with is recently divorced, here are some things that you’re going to want to avoid doing.
1) Being impatient.
Just as you’re having trouble with your marriage, you don’t want to belittle the problems that they had by trying to rush them into doing something. Whether it’s having sex or talking about what happened in the divorce, sometimes people just aren’t ready. If you’re not looking for something like that and would rather move on to what you consider to be greener passages, then just let them down politely and don’t mention anything about their recent divorce being the cause. After all, you can’t save anyone but you can withdraw gracefully.
2) Making comparisons.
We’ve talked about this before when it comes to someone’s spouse, but this is even more true when it comes to a former spouse. Those wounds are still raw and making comparisons between your affair partner and their divorced spouse is just not going to go over well. If you’re looking for something a little bit slower and think you have the patience, then you can slowly get someone to talk to you about their divorce but make sure that you keep your opinions to yourself. Generally people don’t really want your opinion on someone you don’t know. Instead they’d just rather get it out.
3) Trying to commit.
This isn’t something that most of you would do to your affair partners, but we’ve seen it sporadically on the site. Keep in mind that people who are recently divorced just got out of a marriage. They’re not going to be looking to tie themselves down again right away and if they are looking for that, then generally it is a rebound thing. Make the dates fun and light-hearted. They’ve just gone through a ton of heavy emotions and feelings. They don’t need more on their plate.