When it comes to the internet, there are rules. Yes, there are rules believe it or not and while some of them are nonsensical, others make a lot of sense. The rule that we’re talking about today is that if it exists, there is porn of it. This is rule number 34 and while it might just seem like it’s a stupid rule that someone put in there for a laugh, it is surprisingly (and sadly) true. So if you’re thinking of a new fetish or wanting to try something within the BDSM lifestyle then porn is going to be a helpful tool for teaching yourself about it.
We’re not saying that you’re going to want to do your learning through pornography alone when it comes to the fetishes that you want to explore with your affair partners. We know as well as you do (or you should know) that porn is generally an idealized version of sex rather than a realistic depiction of it, but it’s hard to deny that for someone who is starting out with an affair or even someone is just interested in something new sexually, that pornography will help give them a taste of it the way that reading about it and fantasizing about it won’t be able to do.
So yes, we’re telling you to watch more porn as if you really needed any more urging to. There are plenty of professionally produced porn movies that cater to most every fetish, but there are also a plethora of amateur videos that would allow you to live the experience more. This way you’ll be able to have a better idea of what your limits would be. If it’s a new fetish for both you and your affair partner, then you can watch the porn videos together.
We do recommend doing some reading though. Watching porn to figure out a fetish, particularly one that is as involved as lifestyle choices like BDSM, is kind of like reading a Harlequin Romance novel to figure out how relationships really work. They’re helpful in their own way and help you to promote your fantasies and/or foster your imagination, but aside from that remember that they’re tools and not instruction manuals.
It might sound stupid and you might not be the type of person to ever try something in an affair that you saw in a porno movie, but you’d be surprised at just how many people see pornography and think that they can emulate it without taking other factors into consideration. If you have a fetish, particularly the more mainstream ones like foot fetishes, you’re going to be able to find a lot of information both online and offline that will help you to figure out how you want to go about indulging this fetish. For some people, pornography is enough whereas for others they need to be able to directly experience their fetish in order to find the gratification that they seek.
So if you’re looking into a new fetish or sex technique?: