Continuing on from yesterday, there are things that need to be done in order to make sure that your affair partner is happy. The best thing to do, as always, is to communicate with her by having a frank conversation but if there are a few more signals that you are looking for we’ve got some of the most common things that men misunderstand about the sexual body language of females. Just because we love you, we also included suggestions on what to do should this happen to you.
So here is what to do if your female affair partner…:
Have you ever heard of the phrase “dead fish”? It’s unfortunate, but it really does apply to some women when it comes to bed. You could being the best lover in the world, putting all of your attention on her and she doesn’t do anything aside from lie there. Since I doubt you want to be labelled as a necrophiliac, here are some things to keep in mind.
Your affair partner might not like having sex. There are plenty of women who feel that sex is important, but aren’t all that interested in them. As we become more accepting of different sexualities, attention needs to be paid to those who are asexual and the differing levels of asexuality. Because it is so seldom talked about, your affair partner might not even realize that she’s asexual until you broach the topic with her. In some places there is so little information on female sexuality available that some women might even think that they’re being a good partner by just lying there. This is especially true if her husband wasn’t good in bed either and would never correct her.
You need to talk to her about this one, there’s no avoiding it. You can try to do subtle little things like moving her hands, but it’s unlikely that she will pick up on the signals if she hasn’t thus far. Try switching up positions and doing something that requires a little more participation from your partner. If you’ve always been doing missionary, have her ride you cow girl style. You will have to have that talk one day though, so suck it up and just ask!
So have you ever dated a woman who needs the lights off every time that you have sex? We’re talking about the girls who refuse to show any skin even though you know that she’s beautiful she wants to be covered by blankets all the time. There is one pretty sure reason for this and it’s that she’s insecure about her body. If you don’t want her to feel this way then you need to make sure that she knows that she’s beautiful. It’s natural for people to be afraid of their flaws, but this is especially true of females who are constantly placed under a microscope.
This one could take some time, but if you want to make your affair partner feel good then the best thing you can do is show both through words and actions how beautiful you find her to be. Eventually, you could try having sex in front of a mirror so she can see how beautiful she is as well.
There’s that niggling feeling in the back of your mind that your partner isn’t paying attention because you’re going at it full force and she looks like she’s busy counting the cracks on the ceiling. What this means is that she’s not really into the sex like you are. This isn’t to say that she’s not aroused, but maybe she’s fantasizing about something else that she would rather be doing or maybe she’s simply not a sex person. Try switching it up and see if that will solve the problem for you. Give her a position where she’s in more control than you are to see what she does with it. If there’s no real change then you’re going to have to have a talk about why she’s like this with you, but if there is a change then it’s possible that you were just having sex in a way that wasn’t as interesting to her.
Women aren’t the only one who can like some post-coital cuddles. There are plenty of men who would want to get in on that snuggly action but in this case they’re unable to. Why? Because the woman isn’t interesting in touching after sex. Women who are like this tend to not care much about foreplay and are very much the “wham, bam, thank you ma’am” type. She just might have different things that she wants from sex than you do. There’s a chance that she really just wants a no strings attached affair in the strictest of senses or she just might be a straight forward person who doesn’t appreciate the trappings of romance when it comes to the bedroom.
Take it upon yourself to seduce her, asking her about her fantasies. By listening to what she has to say and focusing on what she reveals about herself through her sexual desires, you’ll learn a lot more than you would by trying to pick apart her reasoning on your own.