If you want to know how to keep a long term relationship alive there are a plethora of people who will tell you to spice up things in the bedroom, but relationships are a lot deeper and a lot more confusing than that. To say that there's one sure way to save every relationship is an outright lie, but there are things that you can do to ensure that you're not going to find yourself sleeping alone before your time. The biggest things in regards to those are, of course, compromise and communication.
There is a limit to the amount of compromise that you should be doing though. We have been trained to be mild, to bite our tongue even when something is getting under our skin and sometimes you just need to fight it out. Fighting it out once in awhile isn't dramatic like some people would think. Oh, it can have its drama, but it's not going to inherently make your relationship a failure or make it more fragile. In fact, being able to fight will only make your relationship stronger in the end.
You want to be the people who can fight, be emotional and try to keep the blows clean. There's no doubt that once in awhile it's going to get ugly. Fights have a tendency to do that, but you can still rise above that. The people who fight or express their emotions through alternative means aren't bottling them up and forcing themselves to swallow down all those negative feelings. Doing such a thing is just going to make you bitter and resentful.
To avoid the smaller problems, what you're really doing is letting those small problems become acid that will eat away at the foundations of your relationship.
Some people think that they have to do this in order to maintain a healthy relationship, but nothing could be farther from the truth. If you are denied something that you truly want for too long and have no way to express it, or if you are constantly being upset or irritated but have no outlet, you’re going to become a very different person. The very weight of the pent up feelings that you’re keeping inside of you are going to make it so that everything seems a little bit harder. It will change not only how you act and react to things, but also how you view your spouse or affair partner.
So find an outlet. We’re not saying that you should be fighting with your significant other all the time, but if something bothers you then you should at the very least be able to voice it and communicate with your partner about what’s bothering you. If that turns into a fight then so be it. You can get out your frustration and then regroup after your fight is done so you can talk about the issues that you’ve been having more reasonably. After all, you’re less likely to get on each other’s case if you’ve just finished a fight simply because you’re tired out.
Compromise is good and communication is great, but sometimes you need to just let that frustration explode forth. If you’re not comfortable with doing it through a fight with your significant other then find some other outlet that works for you that works in the same way. Exercise is a favorite for people, but you’re probably going to need something that uses your mind as well as your body else the resentment will remain there.