We live in a sex hookup culture.
There are some puritans who would want to deny this wonderful phenomenon that's sweeping the globe, but the truth is that in Western countries like the United States people are marrying (and having children later), sleeping with more people before getting married and hitting puberty earlier. The American Psychological Association has released study which basically states that young adults are more readily sexually active, but they're not as ready to settle down as their forebears may have been.
These hookups are becoming much more of a normal thing thanks to the media. While extramarital affairs still have a long way to go in gaining acceptance from the media as a whole, there is a general acceptance of sexually free people (who tend to be extremely attractive). Oral sex is on the rise as a sexual activity and has become a staple of most people's sexual catalogue which means that sex can be had quickly and hook-ups can be easily found.
The hookups are also evolving on their own. No longer is the extramarital affair that of the kept mistress in her own separate house. As the place of women becomes more equal and it becomes accepted that they will have their own sexual hookups outside of what their significant other or long-term sex partner might want. They are no longer kept for a single man, but instead able to choose what they would like to do with their own body and sexual choices (to a point, but there are always going to be some people who would rather put tradition before evolution and equality).
As stated in the paper by the American Psychological Association, today's acceptance of hookup culture “…represents a marked shift in openness and acceptance of uncommitted sex.”
What if you’re in the dark and don’t know what hookups are?
Hookups are basically sex, generally one night stands, but they can broaden into long term relationships as well. These relationships are generally called No Strings Attached relationships (or NSA relationships). Hookups don’t involve feelings and they don’t involve getting to know someone. Instead they are focused in on the nitty gritty bumping and grinding. While there used to be a huge negative stigma against hookups, this has changed radically within the last little while.
The study found that on average men and women both tend to have positive feelings about their hookups more often than negative feelings about them. While there is an idea that there’s a walk of shame or that you’ll feel disquieted and uncomfortable after a quick hookup or fling, it was found that with men 82% of them did not regret having had sex. This number was lower for women, but still holding steady at 57%.
Sex then is the goal of a hookup. No muss, no fuss and for most people it can end that way. Especially if they’re hooking up with strangers. There is a proper mindset that you would need to have a one night stand or a NSA relationship, but as it becomes more accepted and more widely practiced we will become better at hooking up.
Just as children nowadays can use iPhones while the elderly struggle with them, each generation is more adept at acclimating itself to the culture of the generation before it than the people of that generation actually were.
Uncommitted sex isn’t for everyone and some people will just never find the right hookups even when they try to find one. The people who are searching too hard for that perfect person to hookup with isn’t really looking for quick sex. If they’re looking that hard, they’re thinking about relationships so keep that in mind.
So what do you think? Should hookups be considered something that is the norm and that should be perfectly acceptable in society?
Our answer is probably obvious.