Yesterday we talked about Male Orgasm Denial and why it was something that people should get on board with and we probably left you with a lot of questions such as how to find yourself an arrangement like this that will work and more than that, one that will be beneficial to both partners. If you have too heavy a hand in male orgasm denial you do stand a chance of alienating your affair partner which is not something that most people would want to have happen to them.
As always in sexual situations, the key to successfully integrating male orgasm denial into your sex life is to communicate with your affair partner about what you want to do. Maybe give them articles to read about the topic so they can see that it’s not a strange thing. The men on our site who do participate in orgasm denial enjoy it, some of them even going so far as to state that “the sex is way way better when I don’t get my rocks off right away”. There is no doubt that denying an orgasm for a bit will heighten the eventual orgasm in both males and females.
You don’t want to rush into this though. No one starts off with orgasm denial at a two week periods, but some people will eventually work their way up to a period of two months depending on the type of relationship that you have with them.
Now with an affair partner it can be a little more difficult to practice orgasm denial simply because you aren’t with them as much as their spouse is, but let’s be real for a moment here. If their spouse was giving out all the sex that people wanted, then they wouldn’t be looking for an extramarital affair in the first place.
If you want to dip your toe into the male orgasm denial pool then you’ve got to start slow. You can try some teasing first, making him work for his orgasm but then let him cum after too much fuss. Each time you can go further and further, throwing in some true orgasm denial but always letting him cum at the end of the session.
To truly participate in male orgasm denial though, you do need to talk to your affair partner about how you want to be in control of his orgasms. Otherwise there’s nothing to stop him from feeling simply dissatisfied at not being able to cum during your session and finishing himself off at home. Don’t think that you can be subtle with signals when it comes to denying orgasms. The need for orgasms in men and women both can be so potent that you’ll end up drifting apart from your affair partner simply out of your own frustration.
It’s natural and since orgasm denial (while wonderful) is the opposite of natural, it needs to be talked about. There needs to be rules set and an explanation of why you want to indulge in this practice in the first place? Is it just for your own sake or are you thinking of your affair partner too?
All of these questions need to be thought of before you talk to your affair partner about male orgasm denial, but once you have the talking out of the way you can go and have a lot of fun with this.
Be bold, be patient and you’ll both get to have the most amazing sex of your life.