One night stands are pretty much the hit and run of the dating world without the guilt and the possible court charges against you. One night stands have all the fun of the chase without the need to tie yourself to someone afterward and more than that, you can have some of the best NSA sex that you’ve ever had as long as you keep your mind in the game. So what are things that you need to keep in mind when it comes to one night stands?
The most obvious one is to not get attached. If you’re digging a girl in a way that makes you think that you’re going to want to date her, abstain from having sex with her that first night you meet. That way, there’s a reason for you to meet again.
That’s obvious though, so what are the rules that people don’t think about as much?
Keep things simple. She doesn’t need to know much about you and if there are too many details coming out, you’re going to find yourself tangled up. No one needs to know exactly where you work or where you live. Everything about this is meant to be physical and not personal at all. While it can be flattering to get to talk about yourself for hours on end, you want to make sure that you keep things from getting personal. If you feel like you’re talking too much about yourself, ask her some questions about her or turn the conversation in a different direction.
Wrap it up. Yes, some people hate the feeling of condoms, but they’re not the clunky horrors that they used to be. You want to practice safe sex because who wants that uncertainty? Even if you’re using a condom, you should still get tested regularly because the worst way that you can ever get caught cheating on your spouse is because you gave them some kind of STD that you picked up from a one night stand. So wrap it up.
Play nice. Even if you think that you’re never going to see this person again, there’s nothing to stop you from making the experience bad for the both of you. Plus if you don’t play nice, karma will come back to bite you in the ass some day. Maybe you’ll be trying to talk up another woman in the same bar, but the one night stand that you weren’t nice to ends up cock blocking you. Maybe that woman you’ll be talking to in that bar could be your wife. You want to make sure that you’re going to keep your bases covered and not leave yourself open to any repercussions. Being nice can go a long way.
Let loose. Since a one night stand is all about trying something new with a stranger you don’t know, don’t be afraid to go a little wild. This is not the time to be shy and unassuming. Be loud. Let her know what you want and what feels good, communicate and don’t try to read the signals. You don’t know this person and they don’t know you, so don’t think that you can read them because chances are that you can’t. On the way to your destination you can have some sexy talk to get both of you worked up and so you know where the boundaries are.
Focus on her first. Your motor is already running; make sure that she gets what she wants first. She should have at least one orgasm or be close to one before you actually get to the sex. The reason for that? Men tend to not last as long as women and if she feels like you’re a good lay then she’s going to tell her friends. You’d be surprised just how small the world ends up being, even in the bigger cities. Consider it investing for the future.
For one night stands you’re going to want to go to whoever’s place is the cleanest. If you’re incredibly neat then feel free to bring her over to your house, but otherwise you’re going to want to go to her place. The other thing to keep in mind is that women can be wary of going over to the place of a guy that they’ve only just met. They tend to be more relaxed in their own environment, so always offer to go to her place first even if it’s out of your way. The added benefit of this is that you can jump ship if things don’t go well. It’s a lot easier to leave someone else’s house than it is to get them to leave yours so make sure that you keep that in mind. The best option here is a hotel, but if that’s not a choice then try to go to her place.