Real talk for a moment here, guys. Now we don’t want to bust your balls too much because unless you’re into that, it’s not much fun for either of us. We do need to talk about this for a moment, however, because it’s important.
Have you ever thought about the impression that you’re giving to women who you're looking to have affairs with?
This is specific to online dating, but you can apply it in many ways whether you're looking for affairs or not. There seems to be no middle ground for a lot of people. They’ll either be exactly what they think women want them to be (protip: you’re probably off the mark) or they’ll be everything that they personally want to be. So there’s no middle ground where you can be yourself with just a little bit of compromise. People aren't looking for affairs with robots, nor are they looking for affairs with selfish, obnoxious guys.
For instance, how many of you have been in this situation?
Chances are that you got blocked because of a picture that you sent or something you said to the women you want affairs with. It could be something in your profile or something offensive in your pictures. You want to make sure that you’re not turning people off right away. There is plenty of time to turn people off later, don’t worry.
So here are the impressions that you give… Are you…:
A lot of times when people get rejected online, they tend to blame it on the women who blocked them. But that's just passing the blame and you're going to burn a lot of bridges. Particularly if you end up complaining to women about how much other women suck.
Sometimes you need to take a good look at what you’re doing and check to see if you’re doing something wrong. One woman might reject you because she doesn’t know what she’s missing, but if it’s every woman?
Guess what, sweetpea. The problem is most likely you.
So take a good look at your profile and don’t do what you think is best. Instead, go for the middle road. You want to give an impression of yourself, but not give everything away. You want to state your intentions plainly without coming across as desperate or even frightening. Affairs can be hard for everyone, but they can also be ridiculously easy.
The key is to not read too much into what’s going on and let yourself relax. Have fun! This is not supposed to be nerve-wracking.
Just chill out and things will go your way when it comes to affairs.