We rush, rush, rush and don’t know what’s going on in our lives. Look at how we treat the world right now. Everything needs to be fast, faster and fastest. While we used to be able to wait five minutes to connect to the internet, we get upset if it’s not done within seconds now and the world is only getting faster. We’re expecting the world to become what we want it to be and at the same time, we know that we need to slow it the hell down. Think about the relaxation retreats, the stress relief techniques and the way that we rely on technology as a crutch to make sure that we’re able to do what we need to quickly and efficiently.
There are times, we’re sure where the need for speed and efficiency have been applied to all areas of your life, but when it comes to relationships (even extramarital affairs), you need to make sure that you’re slowing it down. No, we’re not kidding. Hit the brakes and slow everything to a crawl. Think about how we want everything to be satisfied instantly. Even waiting for sex can seem excruciating sometimes because we’ve become an instant gratification culture that wants everything now, now, now!
So the idea that you should slow down isn’t exactly a new idea. It’s one of the first things that’s said when people talk about relieving stress or relaxing, you need to learn to go a little bit slower. The same can be said when it comes to sex. If you’re just going at things in a quick way then you’re not going to be a very good lover. Frantic and frenzied sex is fun, we’re not denying that, but if you can’t take it slow then you’re going to miss some truly incredible moments.
If you’re just going at the fastest pace that you possibly can and running toward that finish line, then you’re going to miss all those little opportunities to take your sexual game to the next level. Now keep in mind that slowing down doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to take it to the lofty heights of Hollywood style “making love”. You can have slow sex that is just as raw and dirty as any quickie you’ve ever had.
You just need to make sure that you’re enjoying your affair partner’s body and that they’re enjoying yours as well. Take your time, slow it down and maybe use your fingers to get your affair partner off a couple times before you even begin to think of your own orgasm. When someone says “Orgasm Denial” it sounds like a terrifying thing, but even holding back just a little will make it that much more intense when you’re able to orgasm.
Don’t be afraid of losing the spark or losing the moment if you don’t keep things fast and furious. After all, you can have some of the strongest orgasms of your life from the slow build up that culminates in a hard finish.
The next time you’re thinking of going fast just stop and think again. You don’t need to slam on the brakes completely, but believe us, the more you go slow the more you’re going to enjoy it. Not only will it help add some change to your sexual routine, but you’ll be able to go a lot harder and longer than you would be able to when you’re going fast.