Get over it.
You are making a big deal out of nothing.
That's your problem, not mine.
You are overreacting.
These are responses that you NEVER want to hear from your partner. They are simply not acceptable responses in a relationships, whether it is with your husband/wife, or affair partner. Too many times, people wonder whether their partners are right and they are just overreacting to something. Even if you are overreacting, your partner needs to be respectful of your struggles and have compassion for you. AND you need to offer the same back.
When your partner dismisses your concerns or becomes apathetic to it, it's a BIG problem. Even if the issue you are rising is a small one, your partner in that moments is failing to show that he cares about you. Their apathetic or dismissive reaction to the small problem is instead revealing a BIG problem.
Respect, empathy, and compassion are necessary components for a healthy relationship. This applies to any relationship but most importantly in intimate relationships. So while we build initial relationships on things we have in common and activities we share, down the road, the most important component of a relationship is the capacity to show that you CARE! While it may seem obvious that caring is important in a relationship, its importance is frequently lost in the activity of our lives.
Very often I hear stories about people turning away when their partners bring up thoughts or concerns that they don't relate to, care about, or want to deal with. They respond to the content of the conversation without understanding that they are also giving a CLEAR message about the entire relationship. For example, when you raise a concern about your husband's overly close friendship with another woman, he is only adding to your worries when he dismissively says, “Stop making a big deal out of nothing”. Or, when you tell your affair partner that you are uncomfortable with her going out at the end of the day with men from work, she is driving a knife in your relationship with her reply, “get over it”. Such dismissive and apathetic responses send the message that they DON'T care or respect how you feel.
When in a relationship, your partner makes a “big deal” out of nothing.. stop for a second, and think whether you showed that you care, or you simply just listened and dismissed their concerns entirely… if that is the case, you are hurting your relationship by not showing that you care about how they feel.. and the “big deal” then is not the concern itself, but the fact that you DO NOT care..