Anyone who has looked at YouTube comments or spent a good amount of time on the internet will know that people tend to be more rude on it. Maybe it's the anonymity that the internet provides or maybe it's simply because we don't have the person standing right in front of us. This creates a disconnect between what we do/say and the effect that it has on people, but on the internet most of us are more vocal and we're not as kind.
This is something that you need to avoid when you're dating someone online or even just trying to meet someone online.
Whether you're there for an extramarital affair or for something more platonic, there's nothing wrong with a little politeness. Now some people will think that this will put you into the “Nice Guy” category which equals the friend zone, but put that thought from your mind. There are a lot of things wrong with the concept of the friend zone, but we're not going to address that in this article.
Instead we're going to talk about being nice online. Particularly when it comes to online dating.
Yes, the internet is a place to let loose and to chase your fantasies, but you have to remember that you're not the only person on there. It can be easy to forget that on the other side of that website are people who are sitting down to converse with you and conduct your affairs.
There are times when you're going to get rejected and it's easy to give into those nasty feelings that might bubble up inside of you. Don't do it. There's nothing wrong with some politeness on the internet and some people really need to learn that arguing on the internet isn't going to get you very far. If you're rejected, it's best to just take it with a grain of salt and move on.
It's those who can't let the rejection go who are the most hurt by it, not because the rejection was particularly bad but because they're continuing to let it affect them. Do you really want to be that guy or girl?
Let's skip the dramatics and accept our rejection with good grace. After all, focusing on the affair that you were jilted out of can make you miss the potential affair right in front of you.
Here’s something that you have to keep in mind when you’re talking online. Your moods will come through your writing much more than you realize. If you’re bitter about rejection then that’s going to come across in the messages that you send to other people and they’re less likely to contact you. Just like first dates are all about the vibe that you give off, first messages can say a lot about a person. So keep those negative thoughts at bay. If you’ve gotten a scathing rejection or one that cuts deeper than you thought it would, just take a break.
It’s easy enough to get up from your computer and go for a walk or read a book. Even if you don’t leave your computer you can always do something else on it until you feel your blood pressure lower somewhat.
Remember that these messages are one of the puzzle pieces which will form your first impression with a person. Don’t let negativity mess that up for you!