There's this whole idea that sex at the office isn't something that really happens any more, but that couldn't be farther from the truth.
Sex at work is not only on the rise as we spend more and more of our time in the offices, but is something that people are becoming more open about. This could be a good thing as it promotes conversation about the issues and accords people with more accountability, yet in the long run it becomes more problematic than it is worth. The one place (and understandably so) where there stigma is the worst against interoffice relationships is when the two people who are having them are on different levels.
Basically, don't screw around with your boss.
The workplace is a strange space where there is passion, brilliance, worry and stress along with everything else that the workers are dealing with in their personal lives. We are also spending a ton of time in our offices, especially since so few of us actually keep to the forty hour weeks that are stipulated in our contracts. So when humans are put in close quarters like that, there has to be an understanding that some people are going to hook up with each other. Yet we don't like to talk about those things in connection with work as if work is as pure standard that we can hold ourselves to.
Workplace romances are messy, not only because they’re done at work, but also because they’re done by people who don’t know how to separate their work from their pleasure. These relationships are already messy because they’re work relationships, but are doomed from the start as they are messy relationships to begin with. There is something beautiful about the idea of being able to work together and play together, but that is a pipe dream for almost everyone who tries to do so.
Work romances are tough just because you’ll be spending so much time with your lover that people are bound to notice if something is different about you and the person that you’ve been sleeping with. Aside from bosses who are sleeping with their juniors, the problem with having extramarital affairs with your office partners is that it’s nearly impossible to have discreet extramarital office affairs even if you try your hardest.
One of the problems with a discreet office affair is that everyone knows your business. Even the people who should have no clue about what you’re doing will probably know your business. You’ll have to work in close quarters with your affair partner as well which can make it hard to stop feelings from developing, particularly if you want to keep things more on the casual side.
Sex at work is just the wrong thing at the wrong time no matter how you try to spin it, and there is another side of it which needs to be taken into consideration which is when it comes to sex the body makes neural pathways that it follows to make tasks easier. Well, this is true of all tasks that the body repeats, but eventually it’s going to make sex at the office look a lot more appetizing than before. Great, you think. No problem. Try to say that when your concentration is shot because you can’t think of anything else other than your affair partner and how good they would look on the boardroom table.
In the end, extramarital office affairs are dangerous and to put it simply, they’re gambling. When you enter into an office affair you’re gambling with your marriage, with your livelihood and with your office friendships all because it’s so hard to maintain discretion. When things screw up (and they will), your work is so interconnected to every aspect of your life that if you do anything to jeopardize that central hub your entire life is going to implode.
So what do you do when you want that discreet extramarital office affair?
Well to be quite honest we’d recommend finding someone online where you’re actually able to maintain your anonymity and then just role-playing your office romance.
Believe it or not, we might even know of a good website to do so on. 😉