There’s that old adage that goes “give a man a fish and he’ll eat for one day, teach a man to fish and he’ll eat for a lifetime”. We’re constantly updating our skills and finding new ways to make ourselves into more complete and knowledgeable people. When you learn about a new program or find a new way to organize yourself, these are life skills which become useful to you as a person. So how could this apply to cheating?
One of the things that happens when people have extramarital affairs is that they tend to analyze their day to day business more carefully. After all, they need to find ways to work around their regular habits to fit in the time for affairs. They also need to figure out how to change their habits without giving away the game. So what can you learn from the people who had affairs before you?
Not everything needs to be shared.
There’s a habit in the current state of the world that we want to share everything that happens to us even if it’s inconsequential. The sprawling system of social networks all interconnected to each other so we can network with the people in our lives is a testament to that. When you have an affair, you learn what should be shared and what should not. Say you want to say that you liked a restaurant on one of the social networks, but that’s a place that you went to with your affair partner. It’s not smart, right? By toning down what you share you’re not only going to stop people from skipping over your timeline due to blah and similar posts, but you’ll also be able to enjoy your experiences more. Like it or not, we’re often too tied to our phones for our own good.
Looking after yourself is not something that you pick up only once in a while.
A natural side-effect of entering the dating pool again is that you want to look your best. Maybe you’ve let yourself go because you were comfortable in your marriage and that’s fine. It’s great to feel comfortable with how you look and present yourself. Entering the dating pool again to have an affair makes you look at yourself with a little more critical eye and you’ll find yourself trimming away the things that you don’t need and were just indulging in because you didn’t have anything better to do. Couple that with some new year’s resolutions to get in shape and you’re already going to be ahead of the rest.
Time management is one of the most important skills that you can have.
Have you ever felt like time was slipping away from you? People who have affairs tend to manage their time more meticulously simply because they need to fit more activities into the same schedule. Learning how to maximize your time can seem daunting at first since no one really likes schedules, but the more that doing so becomes a habit, the more that you’re going to find that you have time for other things. Not just affairs, but reading or movies or spending time with your family. Maybe you spend too much time playing flash games or watching the news. Whatever your vice may be, you’ll find that cutting out even a percentage of the time you spend on that activity is going to free up a lot more of your time.