There are times when you have to look at your phone and wonder if maybe it’s doing more damage than actually helping you. Modern technology is something of a miracle, but we take for granted the connection that we have with other people. After all, it’s so easy to get those connections that we crave and the fact that we can make those connections at the click of a button should be saving us even more time.
It sounds nice and we’re not denying that people can make strong connections or have extramarital affairs purely over their telephone, but for the majority of us, this is simply not enough. Even the internet isn’t able to make it so that we can get those intimate moments of touch and closeness that most people require in order to make any relationship, whether it’s a marriage or an extramarital affair, work.
Basically, until we’re able to transmit hugs and sensations through the internet then the little contact that we can get from phones will remain our life line. There is vibrating underwear, but even that hasn’t been released yet.
But you probably should spend less time on your phone.
Why? We just explained to you how great the phones are, advanced technology and all that, but being on our phone can hurt your physical and emotional relationships with the people who are close to you. Now we’re not those naysayers who doesn’t like that there are always people on their phone in the subway (what else would you be doing on the subway? Avoiding eye contact?), but when you are with a person it is important to give them your attention.
You would think that because it’s an extramarital affair that the rules would be different, but in fact, playing around on your phone can have a much bigger impact on an extramarital affair than a more conventional relationship. The reason behind this is that while affair partners can get to know each other very well, they won’t at first. This is especially true at the beginning. What this means is that they’re more likely to read into the signs that you’re giving and if you keep checking your phone for anything other than the time while you’re out with your affair partner, then you’re going to be giving clear signals that you are less interested in them than whoever is on the phone.
If it’s your spouse, then just explain to your affair partner the reason why you need to answer your phone. They’ll understand.
The clearest method of communication is just telling your affair partner what you are thinking, but remember that your body language and actions make an impact. If you want to make the best impression possible on your affair partner, then put away the phone and only take it out for emergencies. The fact that you’re focusing your attention on them rather than on the outside world no only makes you seem like a better date, but it will also help to get you engaged in the moment. Chemistry takes two people and if you’re not clicking, but your affair partner is everything you could ever want then the problem just might be you.