Your eyes and your gaze are powerful things. While you might not have the super human abilities of Cyclops from X-men, eye contact is how you can connect with people without needing words, without needing to touch. Our eyes are how we are able to see the beauty in the world and the beauty in our affair partner. Never is this more prevalent when you want to have sex with someone.
There is a way to even have sex with your eyes and before you start picturing eyes bumping against each other in a mockery of sex, you’re going to want to understand how important eye contact is. The thing about your eyes is that they’re useful for reading the emotions of others and by being someone who uses their eyes to communicate more often, you’re also opening yourself up to being read. This can be frightening, especially when it comes to affairs, but eye contact brings on connections and helps to solidify the connections that you already have.
Affairs are relationships where trust is both incredibly important and unimportant at the same time. Some would even go so far to say that sex is second to trust in affairs. When people have affairs, they’re not generally looking for anything long term or someone who will stay with them until the very end. They’re looking for someone they can connect with and, however briefly, set the world on fire with while having sex.
So if you want to have sex with your gaze and want to be able to make that connection a reality… Try the following.
1) Find a natural rhythm.
This will be difficult at first because you’re going to be forcing yourself to hold eye contact. When people talk, there are natural pauses where their eyes drift away from you and they might not even know it themselves. When it comes to sexual tension between two people, that loss of connection and break in eye contact is even easier to see. Try to hold someone’s gaze just a little bit longer than you would normally do so and see how they react. By trying out new things, you’ll be able to better gauge what works and what doesn’t.
2) Don’t hold your gaze too long.
If you find yourself trying to look someone in the eyes without blinking, you need to just stop. There are times when holding someone’s gaze for too long will end up making you seem like a creep rather than someone anyone would want to have affairs with. Eye contact is good, and your gaze selling sex is good, but too much eye contact is going to have you scaring away people who would otherwise have affairs with you.
3) Don’t fiddle around with other things.
Do you know how we know you’re not really listening? It’s because you’re playing with your phone. If you’re going to make that connection with someone then you need to pay attention. This is particularly true of affairs since you have such a limited window to make the connection that you want to. All the bedroom eyes in the world aren’t going to save you, if you’ve come across as disinterested and distant the entire night.