Having a fuck buddy is the thing that dreams are made of for a lot of men. A woman who doesn’t expect commitments and is willing to put out is a wet dream that many men have been chasing for years. The fallacy to this is that men think that women aren’t interested in this kind of relationship which is dead wrong. Women, especially the high-powered women of today, are interested in saving time and many of them have put aside their relationship goals in order to focus on their career. Having a sex friend allows them to achieve the release that they need without having to jump through the same relationship hoops that men loathe jumping through when they just want a good time.
The key to a successful fuck buddy relationship requires maturity from both parties, good timing and (you guessed it) communication. The better your communication is, the easier this relationship will be to have and maintain.
When thinking about someone you want to have sex with, it’s easy to get caught up in their image or your level of attraction to them. While these factors are important, you want to make sure that you find someone that you’re comfortable with. Whether you seek out an old friend or go into this with something new, make sure that it’s someone who isn’t high strung and won’t change the rules on you without notice. The most important rule being that this relationship is about sex and nothing else. While you can be friendly, the whole point of this arrangement is to not have to spend too much time on it.
Now this is something which is never easily broached and you would do well to be cautious when asking this question. To be too blunt right from the very beginning is sure to burn some bridges and greatly increases the chances of you being told where you can go. While the basis of the relationship is sex, it’s rare for someone to want to be blatantly asked if they’d like to go sneak into the back room. The best thing to do is to enter into a frank (but not vulgar) sexual discussion. If you can discuss the idea of a sex friend like two open-minded adults both parties will not only be more well prepared for what to expect from your sex friend relationship, but also will feel like they’re with someone who has put a lot of thought into their expectations.
While we’re not here to endorse drinking alcohol, sometimes it can help make the conversation flow a little easier as long as it’s taken in moderation. Drinking too much to calm your nerves will only end up with the two of you either making a bad decision or one of you getting turned off.
Now this is the tricky part. You would think that asking would be the hardest part, but we’ve saved the hardest for last. It’s easy when in a fuck buddy relationship to let yourself get carried away and focus in completely on the sex. This is completely natural considering that sex releases Serotonin which is the chemical that is brings on calmness, satisfaction and release from stress . Your body is programmed to chase after that like a greyhound after a rabbit. You want to keep things casual though both for you and for whichever friend you choose. If you go at it too quickly and too often, you’ll burn out the relationship and a sex friend relationship which could have lasted for many months will be over within a week.
If it’s someone you know and you have to see them outside of the bedroom, keep it casual. Remember that you don’t have any claim on them and they don’t have any claim on you. The less intimacy you have with a fuck buddy, the better. You don’t want any emotional intimacy in this relationship as that leads to the development of feelings. Instead, focus on that physical intimacy that you’ve been craving.
Following that train of thought, don’t ask your fuck buddy out for movies, dinner or drinks. While you might think that you’re just being friendly, you’re sending out mixed signals to your fuck buddy that could muddy the waters and potentially ruin things for you. Remember, this is a No Strings Attached relationship and both of you signed up to keep it this way. While there is always a chance that feelings could happen, you should be able to avoid that pitfall (unless you don’t want to) and just enjoy comfortable, easily available sex whenever you and your fuck buddy are both free.