You'll always hear sex blogs talking about how to give blow jobs or how to make a man cum, but it's always harder to find good information on how to make a woman feel good. The reason for it is that every woman is different. Just like you can't jerk off a man the same way as you would jerk off another man, every woman has a way that she likes to be fingered. Think that you've got it all or that you've got the magic touch? You might, but chances are that you don't. People's skill when it comes to sleeping with other people doesn't come from the techniques that they've learned alone, but also the way that they take care of their affair partners.
We've told you before that the best way to be a good lover is to be attentive and that still holds true now. You need to think about things before you do them and in some cases, doing these things will help to make the experience more enjoyable without even needing much in the way of techniques. Don't get us wrong, technique is important, but if you can't even get these parts right then technique is useless to you.
The biggest one is to ask before you do something. You think some girls are going to love getting a finger in their ass. Maybe someone you dated before did or you had an affair partner who loved it, but that doesn't mean that everyone's down for that kind of play. Before you try to slip a finger in there, ask. Ask, ask, ask. Think about how you would like it if someone randomly finger banged you there without asking. Not pleasant, right? Even if you think it will kill the flow, ask or don't do it at all.
Do more with your fingers than just jackhammer them in there. Have you ever watched Japanese porn? No, this is a serious question. Have you ever watched it? The stuff that we've seen from it always seems to be the same kind of thing where the guy who is fingering her just jackhammers his fingers in and out of her like he's trying to push a button that's jammed. We've seen it in Western porn too. Actually, we've seen it in most kinds of porn, but don't take your cues from pornography here. Friction feels good for your dick. Going faster will feel amazing for your dick, but you need to make sure that you're not finger banging fast and hard just because you think that's what your affair partner would want. Because the friction that feels good for your dick often can chafe the vagina. Think about how much a rug burn can hurt your knees. Now think about having that kind of discomfort inside of your crotch. Painful, right?
Make sure you use lot of lubricant. On that note about chafing, use lubricant. We love lubricant. Women love lubricant. Even if both of you think that you don't need it, use it anyway. Friction feels good, but it feels better when there's no chafing for either of you. You want to make sure that she doesn't end up with rug burns inside of her vagina then use lubricant liberally. It's cheap and easy to come by so you don't really have any kind of excuse.
Keep your fingers clean. This should seem self-explanatory, but if your fingers aren't clean than women won't want them inside of them. Those areas are sensitive and prone to infections so if you've got dirt on your fingers, there's going to be a problem. I read an email from a man the other day who said that he used sanitizer on his hands before he fingered a woman. We don't recommend that either. I mean, seriously? That shit will burn and you should just clean your hands with soap and water before sex and not use anything that has a buttload of chemicals.
Trim your nails. If you're going to be a finger bang man then make sure that your nails are cut short. You might not think they're too long or that it will hurt too much, but when it comes to the vagina it's a sensitive area. You want to keep your nails blunt and short or you're going to end up leaving little scratches on her inner walls. This is especially true if you and your affair partner tend to go at it hard. If you’re the type to do that then make sure that you’re also the type to keep your nails short or she’s going to get a hell of a lot more than she bargained for. If you’re not sure if your nails are too long then try touching your balls with them. If you dig your nails into your scrotum, does it hurt or feel uncomfortable? Cut your nails. You can also try using the inside of your cheek and if it feels even the least bit sharp, cut your nails.