There is an old saying about adversity that says that it makes us stronger. Despite this, the majority of us tend to avoid adversity or anything that will disrupt the routine that we’ve set out for ourselves. From something as simple as our train being delayed or being caught in a traffic jam to a marriage slowly fraying at the edges, we don’t welcome change unless it is a change that we want. Things that fall into this category are changes that will better our status in life or changes that we have long been working toward.
Unfortunately, the majority of the change that we deal with has nothing to do with these pleasant alternatives. Now once the change has come to you, there are options and since you can’t undo the change that has been done, you can only decide how you react to said change. This is how you take control of your life and the way that you react to its various misfortunes and calamities will say a lot about your character.
We’re currently in an age where more people are being educated than ever before and the common knowledge that we hold now, surpasses that of the previous generation. With every generation we are getting more intelligent, but also more connected to each other through social media and technology. However, this also means that we’re becoming more detached in some ways as well. The brain simply cannot process all the information that it is bombarded with constantly so when you’re faced with the tough choices like how to save your marriage or whether or not you should have an extramarital affair you need to know how to shut out all that information that’s going through your head.
We all know how to process information, but very few of us have mastered the technique of filtering it so that only the relevant information is left. So when you’re faced with a tough decision, you’re going to want to do the following:
DO take your time when figuring things out.
You don’t always have all the time you would like. Sometimes there are deadlines or situations make it impossible to take as much time as you would want to have, but if you have the time to think over what you’re going to do then take it. Don’t rush into situations or decisions since that’s when we tend to make the biggest mistakes.
DON’T rely only on the advice of others.
When it comes to these decisions you are the one who has to live with the consequences so while it’s a good thing to talk to your friends about the issues that you’re having or to go online to see what other people are saying about it, you need to make these decisions on your own. You are the only person who is close enough to the situation to have a really good idea of what is good for you and what is not.
DO run a couple of scenarios through your head.
The more planned out you have your course of action the more naturally that you will be able to see your plan through. Make sure that you don’t rely on one iron clad master plan though since life doesn’t tend to be so neat and people who only make one plan can find it unraveling quickly when something unexpected pops up. Be aware of the variables in your situation and think about how you would counter them if they were to interfere with what you want to do.
DON’T be afraid of change.
It’s this fear that can end up paralyzing us from any significant action. There may be a promotion, but the workload scares you. You may want to have an extramarital affair, but are afraid of getting caught. If you plan carefully enough there’s little that will be able to get in your way. It’s the fear of the change that can keep us standing still until we begin to stagnate so make sure that you’re not making your choices based solely on your fear of change. Change is frightening, but it’s also the only way that we’re able to make our way forward and grow in life.