Gift giving is hard on all occasions, but it’s even harder when you want to give a gift to someone that you’re having an affair with. There are so many lines that you’re not going to want to cross and the normal romantic gestures that you could use for a girlfriend, a boyfriend or a spouse just don’t apply here. So what happens when you want to be a little romantic in an affair, but don’t want to cross the line into a whole new area of relationship?
There isn’t any help on the internet for people who are in affairs. There aren’t any articles in relationship focused magazines that are going to tell you how to show your appreciation to your affair partner without making things too real. At the best you’re going to find things which tell you how to treat a fuck buddy and while some affairs never make it past that NSA stage, there are other times when a deep and abiding respect can form between the two of you. More than that, there is an understanding and a thankfulness that the two of you will be able to share these troubled times among yourselves.
So if you want to show appreciation for an affair partner, gifts are not the best way to go and neither are large romantic gestures.
Gifts are hard to explain away to spouses or other people that your affair partner is cheating on and since you might not have had too much time to get to know each other despite the bond you share, there’s a good chance that you’ll get the gift wrong. Romantic gestures (while more on the right track) can also send mixed messages and if your affair has never canted toward romantic gestures, you’re going to want to make sure that you don’t start now.
So this means that the regular things like chocolates and flowers are out. While they’re wonderful things to get and we’re sure that your affair partner would be appreciative, you don’t want to give any mixed signals and end up making things more complicated then they need to be.
Instead of giving a traditional gift, try giving your affair partner an experience instead. If you two are the type to spend time together outside of the bedroom then change up the restaurant that you normally go to and go somewhere fancier instead. This is only an example and it will be up to your imagination, but you want to make sure that you’re giving something more memorable than a quick hook up. The thing with fuck buddy or other NSA relationships is that you’re not exactly treating the person you’re with as a human being.
While you may value each other in different ways, your affair partner is basically a means to an ends so you can find something which has been missing in your own life.
This means that the best way (as strange as it may sound) to show your appreciation to your affair partner is to treat them more like a human being. Spend some time together without having sex or if they’ve wanted to see a certain movie or show, take them to it. This doesn’t need to be a date and if asked you should clearly state that it isn’t. In order to avoid confusion, you’re going to want to make sure that you’re firm about this.
Tell them that it’s a thank you and be honest in that regard then go and have some fun.
Your night might not end up in the sex that it normally does, but it will be a good break for both you and your affair partner as well as a way to show your appreciation for all that they do.