Now when it comes to body language, no one is expecting you to be able to read minds. If a woman is expecting you to be able to go on signals alone then that’s usually a good sign that you shouldn’t be getting involved with that woman. There are too many little signals and everyone deals with signals a little bit differently. However, even though you won’t be able to read a woman like a book simply by looking at her body language, you should be at least able to read the back of the book and get the gist of what it is that she’s looking for.
By paying attention to more than just your affair partner’s rack (however fabulous it may be) you’re going to do better in the long run. You’ll be able to guess how she’s feeling sometimes without her even needing to say anything. This will go a long way in making you seem like you’re a special guy who doesn’t just know how to treat women, but understands them as well.
The most obvious signals come when a woman is trying to get you into bed. She becomes more flirtatious, more open and she ends up facing you more than she faces away. Simple noting of signs like this is going to help you in the long run even if you’re not sure how to read a signal you’re going to be able to understand the gist of it.
The distance between you is getting smaller. For example, if you’re out on a date and your affair partner is leaning in toward you or is closing the distance so that you’re sitting closer together that is a sign that she wants to be nearer to you. This is not the time when you sling an arm around her shoulders, however, that move might end up being too brash and result in your affair partner shifting away. The inching closer should be done on the woman’s terms rather than the man’s, but you can lean in a bit toward her as well if you want to and try to strike up a conversation that involves the two of you nuzzled up close and talking in low tones.
Her smile isn’t fake. There are so many reasons to fake a smile and we all do it so often that it has become second nature to us. We know which social situations that we should smile in and often do what needs to be done. If the smile is just touching her lips though and there’s nothing in her eyes, she’s faking a smile. If you’re talking about work or telling a joke and her eyes are lighting up then there’s a good chance she’s digging you. The eyes are actually a great way to gauge how into a conversation someone is. If she’s bored, there will be that slightly vacant look, but if she’s into you, her focus isn’t going to be wavering in the least.
There’s a good amount of eye contact. We all tend to avoid eye contact and in fact, someone staring unwaveringly at you can be a little off-putting if they’re not careful. Still, you don’t want to have your eyes (and your attention) shifting away from your affair partner for more than a couple seconds. When she’s got her attention fixed on you, her eyes will be as well and you’ll be able to lean in to talk to her in a more intimate manner. Usually when a woman meets your gaze head on and holds it (particularly if you’re sitting), she’ll also be leaning in slightly too. All of these are good signs.
You’re getting touched. We need to touch people a good amount during our day, but there’s no denying that most people tend to avoid touching other people if they can. Whether it’s because they simply don’t like touching people they don’t know or due to social conventions, we’ll never know. One thing we do know is that a mistake that most men make is touching a woman when she doesn’t want to be touched. While men are more okay with casual touches, women tend to reserve this for people she knows well or is friends with. If your affair partner is touching you, if she’s putting her hand on your shoulder or on your arm then you’ve already made it over one hurdle and it’s a significant one. Being comfortable with touching you is all well and good, but make sure that you keep your touches equal to hers. If she’s going with light brushes and not pressing close, try touching her hand and see how that goes for you. If it goes well then you can try holding her hand.
She’s always near you. If a woman is trying to pick you up, rather than grab you and drag you to the nearest motel she’ll tend to put herself in your way or try to catch your eye. Obviously this doesn’t hold weight when you’re on a date together and she should have her attention on you. Still, you can see if she’s always with you by the way that she’s not checking her phone constantly or looking away from you to play with the jewellery she’s wearing. Both men and women tend to give out pretty clear signals when they’re looking for something and if her attention is on you, you’ll know it.