What turns someone on and what doesn’t all depends on the type of person that you are, but there are many people who let themselves go when they get married. Why not, right? You’ve worked hard to get there and you should have a break. The problem with that is that you’re going to want to stay attractive to your spouse or they just might find themselves having an extramarital affair.
Appearance isn’t everything and we’re smart enough to know that, but if you let yourself go and there are other aspects of your marriage that aren’t working out, then your spouse’s eyes might wander.
There are ways that you can avoid finding your affair partner or spouse less attractive over time. Generally your affair partner won’t be with you that long, but if some of you are looking for a longer term relationship then this is the list for you.
1. Be interested in having sex.
There are people who just don’t have as high a sex drive as other people and this can’t be helped, but if you didn’t want to have sex before then you’re probably not going to switch your mind about it as you get older. Sexual activity generally declines when you get older and as such, if your sex drive was already low then you’re going to find that it stays low. When you’re in a state of arousal, you tend to be more forgiving of any flaws that might be there because you want to have sex. So if you want to maintain your attractiveness to your partner, then you should probably try having sex a little bit more (if you’re into that).
2. Learn to appreciate that your affair partner’s appearance will change.
We all change and there’s no stopping this, but at the very least you can make sure that you are not going to expect that your affair partner is going to remain in this magical static state. There are people who will look at themselves getting older in the mirror and want to trade in their current affair partner for someone younger. While this can be a wonderful thing, aging is something that everyone needs to come to terms with. Holding your affair partner to standards of beauty and aging that are impossible, will end up with your interest in them declining over time.
3. Communicate about what you want from sex.
Understanding what your affair partner wants in their sexual experiences is incredibly important. The fact that the two of you are having sex in the first place means that you are going to want to explore the desires that you both have for each other. Sex isn’t something that is static or that you can simply have a formula for. You’re going to want to switch up your sex routine and try new things. If you know what fetishes that your affair partner is into, you’ll be able to incorporate them into the sex you’re having to make things hotter for the both of you.
4. You’re both healthy.
Without your health, you have nothing has never been as true as it is these days. You need to make sure that you stay in shape. While we’re not looking for supermodel sizes, keeping yourself at least moderately in shape will not only make you more attractive to your affair partner, but also allow you to have more fun when you’re having sex. If you are a heavy smoker or someone who isn’t as active as you used to be, your sex drive will slow down and the sexual acts that you want to perform with your affair partner will most likely be more challenging.