As much as we love technology and everything that you can do with it nowadays, there are still times when you just need to chill out. When you’re having an extramarital affair this is even more true. To have an affair takes up time and you’re going to want to schedule a bit of time to yourself. This means that you should turn off the way that people contact you the most. That’s right, we’re telling you to ditch the phone.
While the rise of smart phones means that we’re more connect to ever this can shoot our stress levels through the roof. It’s not good to know how many work emails come in over the weekend even if you’re not actively checking them or doing anything about the emails that come in. It’s not good to be contactable 24 hours a day. While you might not think that you’re stressing yourself out just by having your smart phone around, you’re conditioning yourself to be at the beck and call of anyone who tries to contact you.
So what we’re saying basically is that you need to just turn off the phone once in awhile.
Whether it’s when you’re out with your affair partner or when you’re spending quality time at home with your kids, you need to make sure that you’re putting yourself and the people who are actually in your vicinity first. It’s so common nowadays to see people on their phones that we don’t think much of it, but having your phone around constantly means that your attention is consistently divided. While we know that it’s a habit to have your phone around, you want to make sure that you’re not prioritizing your phone over the people who are around you.
Studies have shown that people are more stressed these days than we ever have been despite the fact that the workload is (physically) easier for most people. The reason for this is that we are consistently mentally engaged with the world. There is little in the way of downtime or pure enjoyment. Think about going to a sporting event and how many people you see with their phones out there or maybe you’re one of those people who is constantly tweeting. By adding these little tasks we’re both detaching ourselves from the world and distracting ourselves from the experiences that are right there in front of us.
Don’t get us wrong. We love technologies and most people in our office would lose their minds if they had to lose their smart phones permanently, but that doesn’t mean that it should take over our lives either. Part of the reason that marriages fall apart is due to stress so you want to make sure that you’re not adding weight to the burdens that you already carry by making yourself so accessible all the time. Just start small at first. You turn off your phone when you’re watching a movie in the theatre anyway, so leave it off all through dinner too. Things like that will help you to feel like you have more control of your life and you’ll be amazed at just how much time opens up when you’re not actively engaged with your phone so often.