Casual relationships are not a new idea. In fact, the idea of casual dating has been around for a long time simply under a different name. Friends with benefits, no strings attached and even sex buddies have been considered under the large umbrella of casual relationships. Friends with benefits, however, is probably what could be considered closest to a casual relationship as these relationships are meant to emulate romantic relationships without requiring the commitment that traditional romantic relationships do.
The beauty of casual dating is that they do not need to culminate in sex although most of them are at least on the level of near-sexual relationships. There is a lot more control and a lot less pressure far away from the social constraints that have been so long in place with traditional dating that they are beginning to chafe badly. Casual dating is something which affords both participants more control in a sense. No longer bound by the expectations that have been drilled into our brains by romantic comedies and romance novels, casual dating allows for those who are interested in each other to spend time without having to promise eternity in a day.
It is something which has grown more and more popular amongst the younger generation, particularly those who now feel like they may have rushed into marriage or who feel dissatisfied with their marriage. Casual dating allows a person to have an emotional relationship with someone who is not their significant other while having complete control of how far that relationship goes. There is an understanding from both parties at the outset that the relationship is meant to be a casual one without demands made by either party. This does not mean, however, that casual dating falls solely in the realm of no strings attached relationships either.
The problem with equating casual dating with one night stands or with no strings attached relationships is that both the latter focus highly on sex and the act of sex whereas casual dating can (and often does) have a strong emotional attachment. This emotional attachment, however, does not become the ball and chain of traditional dating. While sex is definitely something which can be included in casual dating, there is an emotional and supportive underpinning which is at the core of it. Casual dating is to get to know someone, to become friends with them while still having sexual needs fulfilled and without having to worry about things getting messy.
Casual dating can be monogamous, but usually is not. This goes without saying for those who are seeking out affairs, but even for those who are unattached there is no commitment to monogamy unless both parties are interested in such a relationship. There is an innate honesty and understanding which comes along with casual dating when both participants enter into a casual relationship. While sex may or may not be on the table, the idea of wanting an emotional or romantic need fulfilled is implicit.
To be with someone who isn’t your spouse and is a lover without being your new boyfriend/girlfriend can feel liberating. This is particularly true if you wish to experiment with your romantic and/or emotional needs which have not been fulfilled. There is a whole wide world of sensations, feelings and attractions out there and by keeping the dating casual while seeing multiple people you are able to learn more about yourself. That’s what casual dating comes down to in the end, your needs.
Each of you is putting the other second while looking out for yourself which isn’t a bad thing despite the rap that it has received over the years.
The idea that love, affection and romance are all altars that you must sacrifice yourself to is an idea that should be buried in a world that has come to understand that our physical, mental and emotional well-being is integral to not only our own happiness, but the happiness of those around us who we interact with on a daily basis. By being selfish enough to care for yourself you are more likely to be able to take better care of your children or be a better friend.
The lack of commitment demanded by casual dating also lowers the amount of stress that each participant endures as they are not required to make explanations for their behaviour or to change their schedule around to fit another person. Add in some mind-blowing sex along with fun afternoons of bowling or watching super hero movies and it becomes hard to understand why you’re not dating casually yet.