Everyone knows that it can be hard to multitask and having an extramarital affair automatically means that you’re going to be juggling two different relationships without letting them interfere or interact with each other. Normally we would suggest honesty and open relationships when it comes to situations like these, but considering that situation not many people are going to be able to be honest. Whatever your reasons for having an affair, it stands to reason that you’re not going to tell your spouse about what you’re doing on the side.
So let’s talk about how you can make your life a little bit easier when it comes to multitasking and having those two (or more) affair partners. The last thing that you want to do is start to get your facts mixed up. That leads to getting caught at worst and at best, hurting someone’s feelings. You want to make sure that you’re not going to mix up something that you did with your affair partner with something you did with your spouse and the best way to do that is to keep things as separate as possible.
If your spouse and you often go to Italian restaurants then try a French one instead or go to a honky tonk bar to have some fun on the wild side. You want to make sure that you keep things different enough that you don’t end up bringing up a conversation topic that you never talked to your spouse about. After all, there are only so many times that you can blame your slip up on a dream that you’ve had.
Also, you are going to want to make sure that if you’re just looking for fast and fun NSA sex that you keep your feelings out of it. Simple, right? Well it’s easier said than done since being intimate with someone automatically creates a connection of sorts. To open yourself up when you’re having sex is to be vulnerable so if you’re looking for a hard and fast sexual experience with no strings attached, then you’re going to want to keep those emotional walls at full strength. Keep an eye out for your affair partner as well because you need to make sure that they’re not developing any feelings for you at the same time.
When you’re simply looking for sexual satisfaction, feelings make things messy at best and can even make your extramarital affair into something nerve-wracking. If you’re starting to think that they’re developing too many feelings then it is best to end it.
Discretion is the key to multitasking.
If you’re going to be lying then you want to keep things simple and limit who you’ve told the lies to. The larger the lie grows, the harder it will be to maintain so find an alibi and stick to it. Organization is the key to a good lie and while it is human nature to embellish, the simple lies are often the easiest ones to believe. More than that, you’re less likely to get tripped up if you keep the lie the same. Make a new friend who will cover for you and use them as your reason for going out all the time or find something similar that you can do every week while going out with your affair partner instead.
You don’t want to brag or be boastful about your affair even to your closest friends because it’s easy to form a habit when you’re doing your best to juggle two very different lives.