Cuckolding used to be something that was so taboo that nothing could shame a man more. It was the act of taking a married woman and making a mockery out of her husband. A cuckold was someone who had an unfaithful wife whether or not they were aware of it and it was something that was deeply shaming to the point that it would be hard to face society again. To be a cuckold was to be lacking. Being a cuckold meant that you weren't satisfying your wife in some way and thus, she needed to seek her pleasure elsewhere.
Today, however, cuckolding has become a fetish. It usually involves a dominant woman and her submissive husband. The woman sleeps with another man while the husband watches and has become one of those fetishes that a surprising number of people have since it ties in with things like voyeurism and swinging. When cuckolding is done with the right frame of mind it can be incredibly fun for all those involved.
There’s an incredible amount of trust that is involved in cuckolding and more than that, for all that it would seem that the husband involved is submissive, it takes an incredible amount of self-security to watch another man do intimate things with your wife.
When you’re in the moment though, you get to be the victim. You get to feel like something is getting taken from you and feel this comingling of shame, arousal and need that many men report feeling when they’re cuckolded. There is also cuckolding nowadays where there is no shame or victimization of the male involved which is prevalent in the swinger lifestyle and other non-traditional, non-monogamous relationships.
Some of our members (unsurprisingly) are very into the act of cuckolding and one of them who used the site to find someone who was willing to sleep with his wife, wrote to us with the following email (the names have been changed for privacy reasons):
my wife Jill and I weren't happy with our sex. We knew that we both wanted something new and the things we tried didn’t work. Jill heard about your site from a friend and we made a profile to see if we could find something to make it better. I’ve always wanted to see if we could do a threesome but when we tried I was so interested in watching the man and my wife that we found something new we both liked.
If you’re going to try something new then it has to be cuckolding. There’s such a rush to know that whatever this guys does with my wife that she’s mine and belongs to me. Even the shame rush through me was incredible. The worry about getting caught can make public sex better while the tinge of shame just made me more excited. We were doing something that felt forbidden but was great just great.
Thanks for the opportunity to try it! Now we are having sex regularly and its better than ever.