There are some things that you want to do on first date without fail. You want to look nice, you want to make good conversation and you want to make an impression, preferably a good impression which will have them calling you again for a second round.
There are some things that you want to make sure that you avoid when it comes to conversations on the first date. You want to keep the conversations simple and not too heavy.
So here are some things that you shouldn't bring up on a first date unless you like giving mixed signals that are only going to confuse your affair partner. These are geared toward women who are on a first date, but should also be kept in mind for men.
1) If you are a fan of something or a part of a fandom, keep it low key.
You can mention that you're into something, but if you go full fan boy or full fan girl on your affair partner on the first date it can be off-putting. It's great to have something you're passionate about and that makes your eyes light up when you talk about it, but you want to make sure that it doesn't dominate the conversation.
2) Don't bring up your friends for long anecdotes.
Friends are great and they're a big part of your life, but your anecdotes aren't going to pack the same punch unless the person that you're having an affair with knows the same person. If you're talking about someone you work with, keep it short for the first date and as you start to date more, you can reveal more and more about your life. If you put too many details into the mix, your affair partner is going to feel overwhelmed and forget most of them.
3) Don't let your ignorance show.
We're not talking about not knowing about engineering or astronomy, but if you're going to be racist? Just don't. If you're going to say something that needs to be prefaced with “I'm not racist, but…” you're going to say something that's racist so just don't say it. Do both you and your affair partner a favor. They don't want to talk about race politics or whether or not gay marriage should be legal. Honestly, they've got better people that they can talk to about those things than someone they've just met so just don't.
4) No one cares about your political affiliation either.
You want to bring politics up on a first date then watch how heated everything gets. Unless you're exactly the same politically you're going to find that you've started something you can't fix. Political views are incredibly personal and you don't want to go on about them unless you're absolutely sure that the person you're talking to feels the same way. So unless it says “I'm a hardcore Republican who believes in life at conception” on their profile, just don't bring it up.
5) Ditto that for religion.
You think that religion is great and you're very close to God which we applaud you for, but religion is another one of those deeply personal things that you just don't talk about with strangers. Someone bringing up religion on a first date and talking in depth about it is about as appealing as having someone shove a pamphlet about the end of the world in your face when you're trying to get on the subway.
6) Don't let us know about your menstrual troubles.
We know it happens and we know that it's something that we're going to have to deal with, but not on a first date. The less we know about your menstruation cycle, the better. On the first date if you mention that you're on your period you're either going to send your affair partner looking for an exit or at least looking for the door. Don't overshare, not when you're on your first date.
7) Don't talk about everything you've seen on television.
Oh the boob tube. It's great. It's amazing and a fantastic invention, but if we were interested in the shows that you love we'd be watching them ourselves. While you can talk about the shows that you like to watch, if the entire night becomes about them we're going to be bored out of our mind. Same goes for your favorite books or blogs. The idea is not to bombard your affair partner with information, but to give you both something to talk about.
8) Don't give us your gossip.
While there are many people who would probably be on the edge of their seat to hear what's going on in your office or with your friends, it doesn't have any impact if we don't know who they are. Try to keep the gossip and the snide comments to yourself since they're not going to catch our interest and can make you look petty if you're not careful. We're here to learn about you and not that slut receptionist.