Everyone knows that men have their system for judging women. Most of it seems to revolve around how pretty a woman is or how big their cup size is (up to a certain point) rather than her intelligence even though that is an important factor for relationship material. Women though, have their own system even if it has different requirements. Even for men whom women are only interested in sleeping with rather than having a relationship with they tend to look out for characteristics that would make a man a good match for them in the long term.
Even one night stands are put under this scrutiny and why? The answer is simple. If you're a confident man who is in control of his life and his finances then we feel that translates into being better in bed. It's hard to explain why, but just as confidence in women is more attractive to men than an emotional train wreck, the idea that you've got all your ducks in a row makes women more attracted to men.
Now there are some who will talk about gold diggers and some women are without a doubt just looking for money, however, the majority of them want to know your salary so they know how secure you are. Are you the type of man who can take care of himself or do you need to be taken care of?
These are important questions and factor into the decision made about whether or not to sleep with you, so below are seven of the things that women consider when sizing up a man.
Why is this one first because it’s the most important one. None of these other things is going to count for anything if you’re still living your mother’s basement and think that farting at the table is the funniest thing man ever discovered. We’re not saying that you need to be someone who frequents all the art galleries and museums because there are a fair amount of women who think they want that, but would be bored to tears if they actually met a man who was honestly into those things in a big, bad way. That said, there needs to be a level of maturity because she’s not going to sleep with someone who acts like they’re thirteen. Being spontaneous and interesting is one thing, but being off the rails and doing beer funnels when you’re over the age of thirty-five isn’t going to win you any points.
Your height is the first thing that a woman will subconsciously notice about you. Most women won’t date men who are shorter than they are or even the same height as they are and if you’re a tall man then this ramps up your chances with the ladies. Studies have shown that women are naturally more attracted to men who are taller and whether this is due to genetics or societal values is still yet to be determined. If you’re shorter then you aren’t necessarily down and out, but you’re going to have to work a lot harder than your taller counterparts even if you are the most interesting man in the world.
Your car is also something which makes a statement about yourself. They always say it in the car adverts and they’re right. Now while many men aren’t going to be driving around a brand new Ferrari, just keep in mind that if your car is a rust bucket that smells faintly of urine you’re probably not going to get a second date. You can have a cheaper car as long as it is well maintained because how you take care of your car is an indication of how you are at taking care of yourself, your home, your lover… You see where we’re going with this now, right? Cars that are damaged or have spots of rust are going to be sending negative unconscious signals that you don’t take care of important things and if you have duct tape anywhere on your car then just forget it.
Just like men like their women to be taking care of themselves, women like that too. There’s some leeway here due to personality or having a charming smile, but the sad fact of the matter is that if you’re heavier you’re going to have a harder time getting the girl than the man who looks like he just stepped out of a celebrity magazine. While your body doesn’t need to be perfect and not every woman is looking for rock hard and chiseled abs, try to keep in mind that fitness is something which plays into your bedroom experience.
This is one which has some serious exceptions. A man who is doing what he loves will be able to skip the salary question altogether and the same thing if you are doing work with children, animals, the list goes on. Basically if you’re being a humanitarian or if you’re in love with your job to the point where you should probably be alone with your career, you’ll get a pass on this (but only if you can portray that passion through your words). Otherwise salary counts. A man with a higher salary is more likely to get the girl not because she’s looking to steal all his money, but because someone who has established themselves isn’t going to be fretting about petty things.
While this one is hard to tell right from the get go, there are some very easy signs that are used to signal whether you’re a good catch or not. If you’re fresh out of a relationship within the last six month (still in a relationship is okay, obviously) or recently divorced then you’re not really in the right place to be dating and women know that. If you spend all of your time complaining or can’t see the bright side in anything then don’t expect to get laid or even get a chance at a second date.
This is subjective as not every woman wants the Monster Dick from Mars, but there are a fair amount that do. Trimming your pubic hair (not shaving off completely) will help to make someone who is more modestly endowed look not only bigger, but cleaner. If you have a button penis or one that has some strange kind of growth down there then as bad as this sounds you better look for a woman who is understanding as all get out or be rich. There are many things that women are willing to look the other way for, but remember that this is going to be inside of them and that’s a really personal choice that is all about what she wants. Your ego about your dick doesn’t matter here so check it at the door.