There is a lot of attention that is given to the female orgasm and its elusiveness, but while men are able to orgasm much more easily than females are, to find that incredible orgasm for your male affair partner can be just as difficult. Many sex advice columns are dedicated to the male orgasm, but many are tricks to play whereas these are simple things to think about. Men are unable to have intense orgasms like women are, unable to be suspended at that peak by having multiple orgasms, but that’s no reason why they shouldn’t be able to have a male orgasm which wipe their mind blank and curl their toes.
Emotions do play a part in the male orgasm much in the way that they do with women with orgasms being more intense when there are emotions behind them (whether positive or negative) and every male is a different beast who will prefer different things, but below is some sex advice tips that tend to work across the board.
6. Touch Him.
Oh it seems like something that is beyond simple and yet so few women do anything with their hands when they’re being driven to orgasm. Whether you’re giving a blowjob or having full on sex, use your hands to give your affair partner sensations aside from the orgasm he’s pelting toward. Consciously or not, it will give a man a counterpoint to focus on which makes his male orgasm seem even more intense. You’ve got nails, ladies. Put them to good use by raking lines down his back or use your fingers to (gently) massage your affair partner's scrotum while your mouth goes to work on his shaft.
5. Be Creative.
We’re not saying that for your next sexual romp that you turn the room into something out of the Chronicles of Narnia and dress your affair partner up like Aslan (unless that is your fetish, of course), but a little creativity will go a long way. Too many sex advice columns say to spice things out without giving concrete and common sense advice. Add something a little different to how you touch him like a tiny scrape of nails or a press of a finger against the man’s perineum and it will heighten the experience simply because it’s unexpected. When people are asked to be creative with sex, they generally think that they have to go really far out of their way to meet the standards, but even small changes to the routine will help your affair partner reach that incredible male orgasm that he has always dreamed of. If you normally go straight to sucking him off, focus a little on the head of his jewel and use your tongue against the sensitive tip. If you normally do missionary, push him onto his back and ride him for all he’s worth. The trappings and the costumes aren’t always needed to give that little push over the edge. Creativity can sometimes be as simple as changing up your routine.
4. Orgasm Denial.
This may seem like a strange thing on a sex advice list about reaching a great male orgasm, but we’re not talking about denying orgasms completely. One of the things that can kill an orgasm for both men and women is if it happens too quickly. Sex isn’t a race and being faster won’t score you additional points, so taking a bit more time will work to your benefit. Get your affair partner close to the edge and then hold him there for as long as you can. If this draws out for hours, the effect will fade, but if you’ve denied your partner orgasms a few times and then all of a sudden go full tilt he’ll be crying out your name when he cums.
Some sex advice columnists would advise you to go ape with the sounds, but we’re not saying that you have to go full porno and moan until your neighbors start banging on the walls, but a little bit of talking will go a long way. If you’re not comfortable with talking to your affair partner you can start out really small, even if it’s just an “Ooh yeah.” These little bits of encouragement will let him know that he’s doing a good job and it will make him better in bed in the end, because he’ll begin to unconsciously pick up on when you’re not urging him on. Other common phrases which aren’t too embarrassing to use are “Just like that”, “Oh God”, and “There!”.
2. Give Directions
This ties into the communication portion from above, but there’s nothing sexier than a woman who tells her affair partner just where she wants it. You don’t need to be filthy about it if you’re shy, a simple “F**k me” will do. Telling him where you want him and how you want him will not only show that you’re an equal partner who is just as into this as he is, but also get you the type of sex that you want. If you want to be really adventurous, you can tell him where you want him to finish. Inside of you is great and will work wonders even if it’s where he normally deposits his load, but if you want to tell him that you want it on your breasts or your butt once in awhile we’re sure that he’ll be appreciative.
1. Pay Attention.
This might seem like the most simple thing in the world, but it can be very easy for women to zone out during sex and let her body go onto autopilot. If you pay attention you’ll know what signals about the male orgasm that your affair partner gives out. Does he get a bit stiffer? Does he suck in a breath and hold it? Are there some things that your affair partner always responds better to than others? Paying attention to these little details will let you know when to slow down and when you want to speed up so that you can give him that final push over the edge that you both have been so ardently seeking.