Oral sex can get boring after awhile, none of us are going to deny it but if you're smart about it you're not going to limit yourself to one type of oral sex or one way of doing it all the time.
So what you want to do is find a way to change your regular oral sex into something that is more intimate. Why? Intimacy is all about how close you can be to someone and studies have shown that being intimate with someone or having a certain level of intimacy with someone makes you more likely to enjoy sexual acts. Intimacy has also been reported to heighten sexual satisfaction and feelings.
There are many of us who want more intimacy in our lives, but it's easy to get distracted from that same intimacy. The thing is though that you can create intimacy through practicing these tips.
Make eye contact. Eye contact is powerful; it is a challenge and a way to show our desire for the other person all in one. By making eye contact it shows that you are paying attention and locking gazes with your affair partner will help them to know that you're not thinking of anyone else but them in this moment.
Don't make oral sex into a chore that you have to perform. If you’re not feeling in the mood for oral sex then just tell your affair partner that you don't want to do it. When you're giving someone an intimate act, you're supposed to be a little excited about it and the reluctance that you're feeling will kill the mood for your affair partner as well. Wait until you're in the mood to have oral sex and don't be afraid to be honest about it.
Learn how to take turns. There's something to be said about 69ing or pleasuring each other at the same time. Those are really fun activities, but if you take turns you can focus more on what you're going to be doing and your affair partner only needs to relax and enjoy it. This will help to heighten their pleasure as well as making you do a better job in pleasuring them.
Don’t pull away right away. You can stay with them and let your affair partner enjoy the full feeling of being there with you in this moment. Just let them get the entire experience that oral sex can give even if you haven’t been satisfied yet. Eventually you will get your turn, but there’s no rush so slow down a little to give them some time.
You want to make your affair partner be special. Set aside the time to give them all of your attention. This isn't something that you can do with your affair partner in a lunch break. So take the time to make your affair partner feel well treated prior to you even starting to do anything sexual. This could take the form of making your affair partner dinner or settling down to chat over a glass of wine. If you let someone know that you're paying attention and focusing on your affair partner will help to increase the intimacy.