Some men when they want to have a better chance with women will go to the gym. Others will start by buying the women drinks, but when it comes to improving yourself you’re going to want to take a good look at yourself first. We’re not talking about how you look physically or how much money you’ve got in your pockets. These things all factor into a relationship as well as what attracts people to each other, but there are also ways to improve your personality that will make you more attractive to the women you want to meet.
When it comes to having extramarital affairs, this is even more crucial. It’s not like you can go out and buy a whole new wardrobe without your spouse noticing, so the ways that you can impress your potential affair partners often have to be more subtle. There are ways that you can change your personality in small ways that will help you to get more in the way of affair partners so here are the top four things you can do to become more attractive to women.
1) See the glass as half full.
Nobody likes a negative Nancy. This is true in most situations and not just in dating, but men who are dour and negative about everything tend to find themselves just not getting the responses that they want. It’s corny to say and practically a cliché by now, but the energy that you put out is what you get back. If you’re projecting a more positive attitude you’re more likely to attract positive people, but if you’re unhappy all the time, you’re going to attract negative people. Then you’ll feed off each others’ negativity and just make things worse.
2) Have a sense of humour.
No one is expecting you to be the next Louis CK on a date (and honestly, we’re not sure if we’d want you to be), but someone who can laugh easily and find the humour in situations is someone who fosters positive feelings in people. When you’re a positive influence in someone’s life they’re much more likely to want to see you again so if your waitress spills your drink all over you, find a way to laugh about it. It’s going to make you seem like a magnanimous guy and you’re not going to scare away your date by flipping out.
3) Dress nicely.
Everyone has their own sense of style, but if you show up for a date with your new affair partner in crocs you’re sending the wrong message. There are plenty of websites that will help you amp up your style for cheap and if you’re absolutely fashion challenged, it’s hard to go wrong with a business suit. If you’re clean cut and look like you know how to take care of yourself, you exude a more powerful image than a man with messy hair who isn’t dressing right.
4) Be confident.
Now you don’t need to be a swaggering jackass and shame on you if you are, but you do need to have at least a quiet confidence in yourself. Don’t second guess yourself and be assured that what you’re doing is good. Things might not be going well at home, but you’ve probably got a good career and you’re established in your life. Since you’ve got all this going for you, take pride in it. You don’t need to boast about every little thing that you’ve done and we all love modesty, but you’ve got to take a stand for yourself. When you’re confident in yourself and self-assured, you’re going to find that people pick up on it even without you saying anything. Don’t slump your shoulders and keep your back straight. It’s going to make a world of difference.