You're all excited because tonight is the night, the night that you’re going to meet your affair partner for the first time. It’s got all the glamour of the first date, but it’s a bit easier on the nerves because you’re probably not going to be dating this person all that long. After all, you’re not looking for another lifelong commitment, but someone who can help you to relieve the stress and find what’s lacking in your own life. The lack of pressure and commitment should make the first date of an affair much easier than approaching a woman that you want to date long term. Even the nerves of having not been on a date in awhile shouldn’t be able to dim this for you.
Remember that you’re not going into something that will include a long commitment so if you mess up on your first date with an affair partner, you can move onto the next woman easily.
This isn’t to say that you should throw the date altogether, but it does take some of the pressure off of it.
There are, however, some things and topics that you should probably stay away from. It’s one thing to talk about your common interests, but there are some discussions that can strain the relationship of any couple and will kill your chances if you’ve only just met the person. This varies from country to country, but here are the topics that our members thought were the most worthy of avoiding when on a first date.
It goes without saying, doesn’t it? Politics is always a messy business, particularly if you live in a country that is divided among partisan lines. You could be having the best date in the world, but if it were to slip out that you are affiliated with a certain political party that could ruin the entire evening for both of you. Politics and politicians are often connected with heavily debated issues such as health care, birth control, equal rights and the like. Because they are connected to the deeply rooted beliefs that all of us have, to bring this into the conversation is dangerous at best and an atom bomb on your date at worst.
While it can be nice to talk about family with someone you know well, on first dates it should be kept to a minimum. Families are places of wonderful support, but for many people family outings and interactions with family can be stressful. This is particularly true in the modern world when so many of us just don’t have the time that we used to. Keep in mind that when family is mentioned, people tend to think of their immediate family which will include their spouse and children (if they have any). Since this can bring up pangs of guilt that would detract from the beauty of your date, it’s best to gloss over it unless your affair partner seems absolutely set about talking about it.
This is another topic that is best to gloss over if you can. Sometimes it’s not possible since work is a large part of all of our lives, but work is also a bastion of stress for most adults who are working regular jobs. To talk about work while out on a date in specific terms could bring up reminders of stressful deadlines or a general feeling of unease which will detract from the comfortable atmosphere that you’d want to have on a first date. While it’s good to ask what the person you’re talking to does for a living, try to steer the conversation toward things that they enjoy doing rather than what they have to do. If their eyes light up when they’re talking about their job, then let them talk about it, but otherwise you’re going to want to talk about what they like to do for fun rather than what they have to do to make ends meet.