Ashley Madison SERIES: Causes of Affairs: Reasons to Join The Affair Club
Let's face it Monday's are montonous and boring, or they are fast paced fun and exciting, but sometimes Monday's are just what you make of them. I mean let's face it, are human beings really meant to be monogomous? We are the only species that verbally commits to marriage and the only species that has an actual wedding ceremony to commence those wedding vows.
Marital infidelity can draw its reasons from several number of causes, from psychological misunderstandings to unfulfilled sexual drives. We A betrayal may take place just for any reason under the sun. While some extramarital affairs have a justifiable reason to support them, there are some that take place just for the heck of it. At times, people fail to realize the intensity of their chosen decision. It is only when they get trapped in a real mess that they understand the gravity of their bad relation. It is not very easy to explain as to what leads some people to take the road to disloyalty. So, trends suggest that there is a great deal of difference between reasons given by men for infidelity and those given by women for the same. While it is the unfulfilled emotional requirements that forces women into extramarital affairs, it is unhappy sexual life that drags men (knowingly or unknowingly) into such affairs. A man would seldom associate his betrayal with emotional dissatisfaction. His needs are primarily physical.
Amongst a pool of reasons that may cause marital infidelity, the following ones are the most common:
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Inability to cope with the marriage – At times, two people are just forced into a bond the burden of which none of them can bear. What is the fun of dragging such a relation? No, this obviously does not mean that extramarital affair is the only way out for such a problem but yes, one can at least find a reasonable reason behind such a kind of betrayal. Certain ethnic, mental and cultural differences sometimes make it difficult for two people to carry on.
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Loss of excitement in a marriage – Yes, this can happen and this does happen! There are statistics that go into proving that countless betrayals seek an explanation in bland personal life. After a certain point of time, the two people may get so sick and tired of each other that they may consequently look out for some peppy ways to bring back the excitement in their life or fulfill a fetish fantasy.
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Unrealistic expectations – This is another common factor responsible for broken marriages. At times, partners set such high expectations of their better halves that when these expectations fall flat; they get in a state of acute disappointment.
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Unfulfilled sexual needs – Now, this is a mega reason! As a couple passes through various transitions of nuptial bond, sexual life may become bland and monotonous. An inexplicable desire for physical intimacy may compel some people to consider the idea of extramarital affair. When unrealistic sexual fantasies built up by one partner fall flat, the only easy solution comes as a thrilling extra marital affair.
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Financial problems (Money) – While many would laugh about at the idea of listing money as a reason behind an extra marital affair, the truth is money and financial problems can ruin a marriage, even without one half having an affair . The lure of lucre is very hard to resist, any doubts?
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Inability to cope with emotional non-fulfillment – This usually happens with women, more often than not. A woman (by virtue of her being one) has a very gentle heart. She would relate love with a strong emotional bond while a man would think right the opposite! Men do not understand what emotional togetherness is and this innate inability of men may sometimes make a woman so miserable that she may seek some solace from an extra marital affair.
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Self esteem problems – At times, a partner may be so deprived of love or rather the feeling of being loved that he/ she may opt for the road to infidelity. The problem is not as trivial as it may appear in the first instance. Sometimes, it may get just unmanageable and when it gets out of control, the marriage is screwed! No pun intended.
So, there can be many reasons for infidelity. Sometimes certain petty issues grow up to become so big that an affair seems to be the only solution!
